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My housemate's New Perv
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My housemate's New Perv I share my place with two others who help out with the rent and we're quite close so all is good. However, one of them has a new bf who comes over, and usually sleeps over every now and then, which is fine cos my gf stays over quite often and the other girl has her bf over at times too. The thing is, we used to be very comfortable with her and he ex so it was never a problem with how we're dressed at home, and we're usually in shorts and floppy tshirt, sometimes just a large tshirt over, or whatever we feel like. I mean, I worry abt what to wear every other day when I go out, and I don't want to worry about that at home. My point to this is, I've been noticing him stealing peeks at us. I can understand if its like occasional glances cos it might seem to him like bonus day or something getting caught in a houseful of ladies but please..Sunday night my gf and I was watching a DVD and my housemate and this particular guy came back. We were watching the movie 300 again so they joined us which was fine. Because we started watching before they got back, I was only in a large tshirt and my gf was in a pretty small shorts and a tank top. At one point my gf went to the kitchen and got us a drink and when she came back and was placing the drinks on the table, i caught him staring down her top. I got a bit cheesed off at first but then I thought, she IS quite busty and I suppose a guy's a guy right? So I let it go and we finished the movie, which, I also noticed he kept turning to check out our thighs. To top it all off, after the movie was done and we got up, my gf and I noticed a bulge in his pants! Its quite hilarious if I think abt it but it can get a lil..weird right? I mean, I like my housemates. We're pretty close friends now and I also like the level of comfort we have with one another. I come home after work now and I can strip in the kitchen so I can dump everything in the laundry if I wanted to. Ok, given we can't walk around the house nude anymore but still. What's gonna happen IF he stays over on a weeknight? Cos its a mad rush in the mornings when we all have to shower and work and the LAST thing I wanna worry abt is some perv leering at me in my underwear, you know? She seems like she likes this guy and I don't wanna fuck things up between them so..what am I gonna do with this perv?  I could start bothering about what to wear at home for awhile but until he gets used to the sights..? Like what the hell man..aside from that, he's pretty nice.. but stop staring a hole in my tits! What's he expecting to find? LOL Damn if he stares up my shorts, skirts or down my top one more time I'm gonna have to say something. Shit I hate these talks... :S What else can I do? |
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I used to stay over at my ex place; she had a housemate (J) too. J had the habit of wearing a big and loose T-shirt, with nothing else. There were a few times I saw her breasts and pussy (when she lifted up her legs). My ex realised this. I also had the habit of topless when I was at her place. What did I do? I exercised more control whenever J was around, making sure I wasn't looking at her body. I put on a T-shirt. What did my ex do? She told J to dress less provocatively. You can tell your housemate your concerns (if you still want to dress loose at home), and ask her to talk to her bf on this matter. All guys are visual, it's just how much each can exercise self-restraint. There is nothing much you can expect him to do, unless you forbid him from going to your place. May the Force be with you! Ladykiller0044
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9/2/2009 10:55 pm |
yeah... what ladykiller said... hehehe... i think its the same for women too sometimes, although hardly many men catches the attention of women like women catch the attention of men. you know that feeling? that urge? u know u shouldn't, u know u mustn't, but AHHH u can't control ur eyes (n bulge!)!
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Yup men tends to be more "distracted" visually especially with women they find attractive and to really not look requires a lot a lot of conscious effort. I personally have given up trying to be discrete and I just do it openly and even joke with them about it. If they are really uncomfortable with it, I will look for an opportunity to re-dress the situation eg confine myself into another room or use the restroom etc so that they can slip into something they are more comfortable with.
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9/3/2009 3:18 am |
i think the best way to go about this is to come up with some house rules regardless of who is coming over for a visit or staying over night...if it really gets uncomfortable...lay down the rules...no staying over...everyone needs their own comfort... as for the guy...he's juz getting his perks staying over...no rules to abide by so in time it would become a norm to stay over...
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Well, it's "your" place, and he is both the guest and the crimp in your informal style. Maybe talking to him directly about his perving may seem awkward, but since what he is doing bugs you, I think you hafta have the talk with him. I don't think your room-mate (his girlfriend) talking to him will have the same effect at all, and that may cause weirdness you both feel funny about. If he's a good guy - just needing to tone down his ogling some - then you may develop a better relationship (platonic, sure . . . but still) from the honest exchange. And if he's a jerk, you're just gonna get more and more pissed off with him - better have at it earlier than later. Don't surprise your room-mate - tell her you're going to talk to her guy, or ask her permission, or whatever feels right to you. But then "you" control the conversation. I predict you will feel better about it once it's done. Be calm, be clear about what you feel is going on, use humour if appropriate, but ask him to change his behavior. It's your place after all - not his.
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9/9/2009 4:44 am |
I have to ask the OBVIOUS question. You are complaining about him looking but why are you watching him as well? More importantly, WHY did you look at the bulge in his pants? Because it was noticeable, probably the same applied with the tanktop boobs thing. I'm sure you will give some reason but in the end, you are kinda guity of doing the same thing.
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true wat they said....tell ur mate so she undestand you...juz have a good discussion among u gerls...
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Why do I think you are way too sensitive about looks? I would even run around nude, why limit yourself; limit your freedom in your own home? Take it easy and keep doing what you have done all time long. Shower? Yes, he will be the last one who showers, he does not pay the waterbill  . How do you feel about my post Does one dick work ?  .....  .....  .....  .....  .....  .....  .....  .....  .....  .....  .....  .....  .....  I love pussies and adore nice dicks
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10/11/2009 3:25 pm |
If he is constantly ogling you and your roommate then his gf has to be told, or he does. If he is an easy going guy then make it a light hearted kind of thing but firm - like "Hey, I like what I look like too, but come on man! Respect! Drool over (girl friends name) not me!" If he is an ass about it then you can let it rip, your place, fuq him!  Sometimes us guys are dense and make up signals when there may not be any. He may think that you like it, are into it, whatever. Best to cut that in the bud!Up inthe sky! It's a bird, it's a plane, it's inthefe
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Hi all, thanks for all the responses  Spoken to him and it was a lot less panful than expected. THen again, a lot of things are He's a pretty nice guy, minus the roving eyes, which, he still subjects us to but with less...enthusiasm, plus my housemate seems happy with him so, its all good. THanks again for the responses.
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