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Evening Entertainment and Fun!

WHEN DID YOU LAST CHANGE YOUR MIND?  

spunkycumfun 63M/69F
29487 posts
2/19/2022 5:56 am
WHEN DID YOU LAST CHANGE YOUR MIND?



Research has shown that once people form a view, it is very difficult for these views to change even if there is clear evidence to the contrary to their views. Psychologists, sociologists, political scientists, anthropologists and economists have long found that opinions, once formed, are difficult to shift.

People, myself included, like to think we change our minds to fit the evidence, facts and data. But, as Albert Einstein quipped, people often change the so-called facts to fit in with their views. Fake news comes to mind! I think may be better at changing their mind than adults!

My mind has changed but rarely overnight. My opinions evolve over time as a result of conversations, experiences and reading around. For example, I used to say that I was not a feminist because I believed that a man could not transcend his gender. After reading a book by Caitlin Moran, which simply argued that whatever a man can do, a woman should be allowed to do. I realised that my view was rubbish. I am now very happy to call myself a feminist.

Sexually, I have changed my views over time. Things that I enjoy sexually now were often things that either I never considered or never thought I would like. I now realise there is more to sex than the missionary position; there is the doggy position! I am now far more open to sexual possibilities, though I will draw a line at having my balls electrocuted!

When was the last time you changed your mind?
How have your views on sex changed over time?


The last time I changed my mind was when I attended a lecture given by a professor on his research on the emigration of trained and skilled nurses from Caribbean islands to Britain. It may not sound exciting but his lecture changed my views. Before the lecture, I was of the opinion that this emigration was not a good thing as Britain was depriving much poorer countries of their nurses; for me, it was a form of exploitative neo-colonialism.

However, the professor argued that this emigration was good for both Britain and the Caribbean countries. The governments of these Caribbean countries deliberately trained far more nurses than what was needed and the nurses who worked to Britain regularly sent money to their families still living in the Caribbean. Basically, nurses were a valuable source of export earnings for these relatively poor countries and they were essential in staffing the hospitals in Britain. My initial, uninformed opinion immediately shifted within one hour from this is generally a bad thing to this is generally a good thing.



spunkycumfun 63M/69F
41171 posts
2/19/2022 5:57 am

Because people don’t change their opinions easily is one reason why I sometimes don’t argue with anti-vaxxers, Trumpians and Brexiteers. It’s just a waste of time!


CleavageFan4U 67M
69374 posts
2/19/2022 11:27 am

I used to think I was a moderate. But when I moved to Kansas (from the east coast) I became to think I was a flaming liberal!!

When was the last time you changed your mind? - At least in my mind, you didn't really "change your mind" per se (on the Caribbean nurses thing) but rather your opinion evolved as you got more facts. I'd like to think I operate the same way.

How have your views on sex changed over time? - Yes and no. I've always been quite open to new things, and as I've gotten a chance to explore a few of them, I found some things (that some might consider kinky) that I REALLY liked, but yes a few I did not.

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Tmptrzz 61F  
107039 posts
2/19/2022 11:47 am

What an interesting read about the changing of ones mind. You know I am pretty set in my ways of thinking too, but I am never against changing my mind about something if it fits the particular matter.

When was the last time you changed your mind? When I married my first husband.

How have your views on sex changed over time? It just depends on the situation, sometimes I change my mind and then I usually go with my gut instinct as it really nas
never failed me..

I hope you enjoy a wonderful weekend..

Seduce the mind and see what a wonderful adventure the body will take you on..


lok4fun500 M
51906 posts
2/19/2022 3:16 pm

I can't remember!
I still want sex, sex, and sex!!!!


classicalrebel4 68M
1755 posts
2/19/2022 4:43 pm

I just don't bother to make up my mind in the first place.

Please don't let me be misunderstood.


scoupe42 60M

2/19/2022 5:58 pm

Great blog!!!!!


oldbstrd55 67M
3292 posts
2/19/2022 8:23 pm

I've always tried to keep an open mind. True there are things that do take a good amount of evidence to change my mind. I avoid talking politics and religion, because most people are set in their beliefs and if you don't agree with them, you are a sinning communist


PonyGirl1965 58F
22090 posts
2/20/2022 12:24 am

On some things I change my mind often. I tend to reserve my opinion until I have enough facts to feel confident. Though reporting is so biased I don't think we ever get the whole truth.

My views on sex changed as I matured.


SilverFoxMark66 69M
286 posts
2/20/2022 1:52 am

Great post, I have always been the maverick in my family of 6 siblings, questioning everything from an early age; that has evolved with my learning of CPD tools like Neuro Linguistics from 1992 to "endless curiosity about human behaviour" & Dr John Demartini's work on Heirarchy of Values (see many examples on YouTube on many & diverse topics) both of which explain how everyone can change their beliefs & values over time on any given topic, both worth further study for anyone interested; thanks for the stimulating question.


pal334 69M  
45821 posts
2/20/2022 9:14 am

The last time I changed my mind as to allow several FWBs
I have become more liberal, making myself available more


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superbjversion2 68F  
24388 posts
2/20/2022 9:39 am

I change my mind as often as I change my underwear! Okay ... maybe not that often. When I was young, I saw the world in black and white, and my opinions were as stark. So the biggest mind change, for me, was recognizing the grey (look - I wrote that in British, just for you) Mind change comes easier when you can see other possibilities without being told.

Sexually, the biggest mind change for me, has been about younger men. When you are with someone young enough to be your child, it's hard not to view them as a child.

Opportunity may knock only once, but temptation bangs on the door forever!


spunkycumfun 63M/69F
41171 posts
2/21/2022 6:11 am

    Quoting CleavageFan4U:
    I used to think I was a moderate. But when I moved to Kansas (from the east coast) I became to think I was a flaming liberal!!

    When was the last time you changed your mind? - At least in my mind, you didn't really "change your mind" per se (on the Caribbean nurses thing) but rather your opinion evolved as you got more facts. I'd like to think I operate the same way.

    How have your views on sex changed over time? - Yes and no. I've always been quite open to new things, and as I've gotten a chance to explore a few of them, I found some things (that some might consider kinky) that I REALLY liked, but yes a few I did not.

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I guess my opinion on the Caribbean nurses evolved; that's a better way of saying I was wrong!
I've also changed my opinion on the Dark Side mainly because it has significantly improved since it's initial disastrous launch.


spunkycumfun 63M/69F
41171 posts
2/21/2022 6:16 am

    Quoting Tmptrzz:
    What an interesting read about the changing of ones mind. You know I am pretty set in my ways of thinking too, but I am never against changing my mind about something if it fits the particular matter.

    When was the last time you changed your mind? When I married my first husband.

    How have your views on sex changed over time? It just depends on the situation, sometimes I change my mind and then I usually go with my gut instinct as it really nas
    never failed me..

    I hope you enjoy a wonderful weekend..
I loved your answer about changing your mind after marrying your first husband. I changed my mind after marrying my first wife!


spunkycumfun 63M/69F
41171 posts
2/21/2022 6:16 am

    Quoting lok4fun500:
    I can't remember!
    I still want sex, sex, and sex!!!!
Wanting sex is always a constant!


spunkycumfun 63M/69F
41171 posts
2/21/2022 6:17 am

    Quoting classicalrebel4:
    I just don't bother to make up my mind in the first place.
That's a great strategy; no one can ever accuse you of flip-flopping!
Thanks for stopping by.


spunkycumfun 63M/69F
41171 posts
2/21/2022 6:18 am

I'm pleased you liked it. See you on the Dark Side?


spunkycumfun 63M/69F
41171 posts
2/21/2022 6:20 am

    Quoting oldbstrd55:
    I've always tried to keep an open mind. True there are things that do take a good amount of evidence to change my mind. I avoid talking politics and religion, because most people are set in their beliefs and if you don't agree with them, you are a sinning communist
Being open-minded is always the best mindset.
I love talking about politics, but it has got me into lots of trouble!
Thanks for stopping by.


spunkycumfun 63M/69F
41171 posts
2/21/2022 6:21 am

    Quoting PonyGirl1965:
    On some things I change my mind often. I tend to reserve my opinion until I have enough facts to feel confident. Though reporting is so biased I don't think we ever get the whole truth.

    My views on sex changed as I matured.
I should reserve my opinion more rather than just wade in!


spunkycumfun 63M/69F
41171 posts
2/21/2022 6:23 am

    Quoting SilverFoxMark66:
    Great post, I have always been the maverick in my family of 6 siblings, questioning everything from an early age; that has evolved with my learning of CPD tools like Neuro Linguistics from 1992 to "endless curiosity about human behaviour" & Dr John Demartini's work on Heirarchy of Values (see many examples on YouTube on many & diverse topics) both of which explain how everyone can change their beliefs & values over time on any given topic, both worth further study for anyone interested; thanks for the stimulating question.
I'm interested in how people's beliefs form and change. I think it's difficult to shift people's deep beliefs People often hide behind common sense, which, as you know, is often not common nor sensible!


spunkycumfun 63M/69F
41171 posts
2/21/2022 6:24 am

    Quoting  :

This site has changed my views, especially on transgender issues.


spunkycumfun 63M/69F
41171 posts
2/21/2022 6:26 am

    Quoting pal334:
    The last time I changed my mind as to allow several FWBs
    I have become more liberal, making myself available more

Becoming more liberal is unusual though refreshing. Often people become more conservative and swet in their ways.
Changing your mind on FWBs sounds like an good and easy change of mind!


spunkycumfun 63M/69F
41171 posts
2/21/2022 6:28 am

    Quoting superbjversion2:
    I change my mind as often as I change my underwear! Okay ... maybe not that often. When I was young, I saw the world in black and white, and my opinions were as stark. So the biggest mind change, for me, was recognizing the grey (look - I wrote that in British, just for you) Mind change comes easier when you can see other possibilities without being told.

    Sexually, the biggest mind change for me, has been about younger men. When you are with someone young enough to be your child, it's hard not to view them as a child.
Like you, my early world was black and white now it's gray - there's a nod to you back!


md46guy 46M

3/16/2022 8:38 am

The problem most people have with changing their mind, is allowing first for the possibility that they may be wrong with their current beliefs....


spunkycumfun 63M/69F
41171 posts
3/17/2022 3:29 am

    Quoting md46guy:
    The problem most people have with changing their mind, is allowing first for the possibility that they may be wrong with their current beliefs....
Very true. Humans are very fallible but unfortunately they like to think they are infallible.
Thanks for stopping by.


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