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G000dbuddy 34M  
779 posts
10/21/2021 8:15 pm
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If you have time give your time for alone people . If you can give good advice give the people . Then check the results ? What is your opinion my mate of Dinner Contacts.

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agelesssexylegs 78F
1057 posts
10/21/2021 8:53 pm

Oh yes it is lovely to converse with others,many people today live on their own and do not get to have company like they use to,always makes me happy to make others smile


MrWrong4RghtNow 55M  
2230 posts
10/22/2021 1:44 am

I enjoy making people smile or laugh. The irony is that I'm not a people person. Go figure lol

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scoupe42 58M  
12855 posts
10/22/2021 4:11 am

I sometimes like to give advice, but for some reason they don't listen.


G000dbuddy 34M  
1243 posts
10/22/2021 6:29 am

If you haven't been single for a of years, can come as a shock. Even routine chores can suddenly feel different and frightening now that you haven't got someone by your side. Finding another mate simply feel comfortable again is not a positive move. You need discover your confidence as a single person before forming a new relationship. If you rush too soon and find yourself with another failed relationship on your hands, it will damage your emotional well-being.

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1243 posts
10/25/2021 12:26 am

Sometimes it is difficult to recognize when you're in an abusive relationship because maybe you've grown up in a household that contains the same kind of behavior. Or maybe you think abuse is getting beaten on a daily basis and that is not happening to you. It's important to know that abuse is not only physical and can happen through very small actions.

Belittling or over the top teasing
Teasing can be cute, but when it becomes a constant occurrence or your feelings are getting hurt, then it's gone too far. Sometimes people think that saying they are only kidding makes everything okay, but it really doesn't. If negative teasing or belittling or nasty comments are getting you down, you need to say something. It is hard, but if you can't demand more respect for yourself, it won't be given to you.

Blame for things out of your control
It's sweet and cute to be considered good luck when good things happen, but being called bad luck or a jinx when bad things happen is just wrong when you have no control over the situation in question such as a sports game or such. If you are being seriously blamed for someone else's loss, to the point where your partner is angry with you about the outcome, it's important to stand up for yourself and make sure that you do not feel guilty for something out of your control.

Unloving touches
No one, not a boyfriend or girlfriend, should ever touch you in a way that makes you feel uncomfortable. You know that hitting and slapping are wrong, but it's just as wrong to shove or grope someone. The assumption that you are "up for grabs" because you're dating is false. Your body is still yours. If your partner is trying to show affection, then do what you can to explain what touches are okay with you and which are completely off limits without asking first.

Needing to know your every move
Sometimes it's out of protectiveness that your boyfriend or girlfriend wants to know where you're going and when they expect to be back. When your partner needs to know everywhere you are going and goes to the extent of interrogating you about where you are going and who you are going with constantly, that's where the problem lies. And when you are expected to ask permission, that is taking control to an even higher level.

Disregarding feelings
Being in a relationship means that you listen and care about each other's feelings. When one person's feelings matter more than another's this causes issues in any relationship. One person is never more important than another person in a relationship. If you have talked to your partner about any of the above issues or something else that's important to you and s/he continues the actions that they now know upset you, it is important to realize that they are disregarding your feelings and that is not a sign of love.

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1243 posts
10/25/2021 12:30 am

Age differences have become more common in relationships, and someone being significantly older or younger than their partner is no longer the taboo it once was. However this doesn't mean that having a large age gap in a relationship is not without its difficulties.

One of the biggest issues faced by couples who have a large age gap in their relationship is that they will often have different plans for the future of the relationship. In many cases the older partner in the relationship will be looking to settle down and start a family, while the younger partner is not always ready for such a commitment. In some cases the older partner already has family commitments from a previous relationship, which can cause friction with their current partner. On a similar note, the possibility of starting a family may lead to tension where the younger person would like to have children but their older partner has a family from a previous relationship, and doesn't want to have any more children.

Partners in relationships with large age gaps often find it difficult to relate to their partner's friends, sometimes finding their older partner's friends boring or their younger partner's friends immature. Even if this is not the case, their partner's friends often leave them out of the group, either consciously or subconsciously. Similarly, partners may have different ideas of fun places for dates.

As with any relationship, insecurity is one of the main issues which can destroy a happy couple. When in relationships with an age gap, partners often find themselves worrying that their other half will run off with someone their own age.

Honesty and communication are important factors in any relationship, but even more so when there is a large age gap between partners. If the relationship is meant to be then the partner will understand any issues, and be willing to work towards resolving them. Many people in these relationships, particularly the older partner, make the mistake of bottling up their feelings, assuming that their partner will not understand due to the age difference, or is too immature to want to change. Communication is of particular importance with regards to future plans for marriage and family.

Some relationships with age gaps simply won't work, as with any relationships, however by talking things through and making the effort to respect your partner's needs you can increase the chances of making the relationship work in the longer term

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1243 posts
10/25/2021 12:35 am

Does the fact you're about to date a single parent change anything in the dating process? It can, to some degree, particularly if the person hasn't been actively dating. Taking care of kids doesn't leave much time for socializing. In fact, if the children are pre-school age, there's not much time left for anything.

Whether you're asking out a single mom, or being invited by a single dad to join him for dinner, there will be a mix of excitement and apprehension on their part. Understanding this will get you off to a good start – while the following advice will ensure a great finish.

Your ability to make your date relax and enjoy themselves will determine the success of the date. Acknowledge that your date's life probably revolves around kids and start there.

- Ask about the children. Proud parents are always willing to talk about them, so it's a good way to get conversations started.

- Pictures will obviously come next. Your date is probably carrying quite a few, especially if she's the single mom.

- If you're really daring, ask about past relationships. You don't' want to be your date's therapist, but sometimes it's a topic they're comfortable talking about and you can learn a lot knowing where they've been.

- Suggest that they call home to see how the kids are and if the babysitter is doing okay. If your date is feeling comfortable with you it probably won't be necessary, but the gesture will be appreciated.

- Make it known right up front that your date's children can call you anytime while you're on the date. Be proactive and have the telephone numbers for where you'll be. This shows your sincerity.

- If your date hasn't had the opportunity to socialize lately, keep the date more subdued. Dinner is good, but make it casual dining. No movie theatres or places where you can't talk.

- Understand that sometimes a single parent of young children may slip into baby talk. This might be cute coming from a female, but not if your dates a single dad.

- Don't invite yourself back into their home after the date. Your date may not be ready for that and feel uncomfortable with kids running around and the possible state of the home.

- Make a list of things to talk about since your date's current interests may only revolve around family. Ask about hobbies, family origins, pets, or world affairs. Any topic is fine as long as it keeps the conversation going and moves it away from children.

- You can always suggest an activity or outing where your date's children can join you if babysitters are a problem. This isn't suggested for a first date, but after that, why not? If you're going to see the person again, then kids will be part of it.

- Let the dress be casual. Having the responsibility of supporting children, your date may not have money for expensive clothes. Not that this matters, but it could be embarrassing for your date if you're intending to go someplace requiring a fancier wardrobe.

- Don't push meeting the kids. Let your date dictate the time and place for that, although you can certainly suggest they participate in a future date. When that happens make it theme parks, the beach, or wherever children will be comfortable and have a good time. First time outings with children at a restaurant rarely turn out as expected.

That's all there is to it. Dating a single parent can sometimes have its challenges, but if you're seriously interested in the person, working your dates around kids, colds and babysitters is worth it.

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1243 posts
10/25/2021 9:02 am

Here are five things that a quality man won't do.

He won't fight dirty
A quality man won't use arguments as an excuse to call you names or become physical. All couples have disagreements from time to time and you want to know that the man you're dating won't resort to bad behavior. A quality man will not intimidate, name-call, push, shove, hit, or manipulate during a fight with you no matter how bad it may get. He won't use any weak points, such as insecurities, against you during arguments. A quality man will remain as calm as he can, even walking away if things get too heated.

He won't take you for granted
A quality man will know when he has a good woman. He won't take you for granted by showing up late for dates without calling, break dates with you to hang out with his buddies, or ignore texts and phone calls for hours. He will be busy at times, but he won't make a habit of making you feel like you come after everything and everyone else. He wants you to know he thinks you're special.

He won't allow himself to be treated poorly
A quality man is confident and won't let other people treat him badly. He won't put up with anyone, including a girlfriend, call him names, threaten him, or manipulate him. He knows he is not perfect, but has good things to offer others and doesn't deserve to be treated unfairly. He won't retaliate by doing the same behavior that is done to him. A quality man will walk away.

He doesn't invade your privacy
A quality man won't go through your phone, journal, or emails to find out what you're doing. A good man will ask you what he wants to know rather than snooping and trying to catch you in lies. He respects your privacy and knows that invading it signals a lack of trust. A quality man doesn't think he's entitled to access every nook and cranny of your life without your permission.

He won't keep you from friends or family
A quality man won't isolate you from the other people in your life. If a man is insecure, he will hesitate to share you with others fearing you may have more fun without him or leave him. A quality man will not only encourage time with the other people in your life, he will take the time to get to know them as well. When a man tries to keep you attached to him and isolated from others, this is an attempt to control you and make himself the center of your life.

Dating a quality man might seem like quite a change if you're used to dating irresponsible, immature, and mean men. A quality man is a good choice when you're looking for a stable relationship with a future.

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1243 posts
10/25/2021 9:06 pm

Meeting someone online isn't uncommon these days, but neither is the large number of people getting played online. Playing with people's hearts is a game to some people online, so it's important to keep your eyes open for warning signs. Here are 4 signs that you're getting played online.

He sweet-talks constantly
You might be being played if the man you're talking to has nothing but sweet things to say all the time. It's nice to be sweet-talked and romanced, but that can't be your entire communication with him. If you're looking for a real relationship, it can't all be fantasy. It's important to have real conversations. If he tells you that he loves you early on and that you're the one for him, but he doesn't really know you, you're probably being played.

He talks, but doesn't act
People can make themselves into anyone they want to be online. A man can say that he's a businessman who volunteers on the weekends, but does he actually do them? Some people talk a big game to make a good impression, but don't actually do what they claim. Someone who lies for whatever reason, is playing you. Don't be afraid to call out inconsistencies that you find between what he says and what he does.

He disappears a lot
If the man you're talking to disappears a lot, or during certain hours consistently, you might be being played. If a man cannot talk to you outside of work hours, this suggests that he has a girlfriend or wife and family in real life. A man who is free from outside romantic relationships will not have such strict rules about when he can and cannot talk.

He doesn't have an interest in meeting in person
Meeting people online is great, but eventually it has to move to real life. If your suggestions to meet up for coffee are constantly turned down, you might be dealing with an online player who is just having a good time online and intends nothing more to happen.

It's great to meet people online, but you also have to be careful about not getting played. It's hard to really tell if someone is being honest or not, but if you feel uncomfortable that something isn't right, trust yourself, it probably isn't.

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1243 posts
10/26/2021 9:05 am

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Look for inconsistencies in what he/she says about themselves.
Keep in mind that not all those "women" are even women. Some of them are MEN and they dont give a gosh darn in heck whether you get hurt or not. OR they might actually enjoy it. Further, sometimes those "women" or even "single men" you are talking to are MORE THAN ONE MAN. You might even be communicating with a group of men.
Most people know how to snatch a pic from online and post it as their own. So much for that.
Marriage..frustrated How many times do i have to tell you people about marriage?? HOW MANY TIMES?
Just dont do it. Marriage is an invitation to control you, in ways you cannot even imagine. Marriage puts your money AND LIFE in danger. Just because you're not being told about it for various reasons does not mean it's not happening all around you.
If marriage "keeps your spouse from just walking out on you if they feel like it" then imagine what it's going to be like to live with somebody who WANTS to walk out on you. Or what if they leave you cryin and bleedin in the corner while they go out to a bar and ohhhh you never expected this! Well NOW you got to get a divorce! If you CAN.
I CAN EASILY DO A FEW MORE PAGES, but i'll leave it at that.
Oh-well i cant let this one go though. One more.
If he/she is BLAMING YOU for stuff you know is not your fault, for ANY reason like, they "had a bad day" or it's "PMS" you had better run WHILE YOU STILL CAN!
Ok with great reluctance, im going to end it here.
Good Luck! handshake
And if you get married, you're gonna need it! professor
Realrealityonline today!

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1243 posts
10/26/2021 9:08 am

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Boy ... how true ... i might be up in years but my mind is good ... i get stuck with this a lot of times... women are so good at it .. when they don't get the upper hand on you ..they scream out blue murder .. some just like to dangle you on a string ... i get tired of money hits ... i know a lot of guys are scammers and fakes .. but there are lots of women in that boat too.. just be aware ... i can read most now .. and just move on .... good this is out there to remind others ...

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1243 posts
10/26/2021 9:10 am

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Yes, been there, and those shity are a real man!
Must be they've been mentaly and emotionaly abuse by bad experience of scams.
The worst is they wount show up when the times come to meet face to face, the best sissy coward !
And perhaps they are so ugly like a troll!
So,what is the difference with a scammers digging wallets
and him scamming emotion and mentality ?

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1243 posts
10/26/2021 9:12 am

Other comments 4
Been there many times.
Even without these signs.
People do a big talk and then when the moment comes to show interest or keep promises or when they understand you know they are lying or when you question their weird behaviour, they start to back off. Awful.
I have also noticed lot of men have very high standards for the woman they seek. Basically she should just shut up and take all the lies and drama they are saying or doing, without questioning or complaining.
My advice to those men is to buy a doll, it is going to be there no stop, they can even forget about it, neglect it, and it will always agree with them!

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1243 posts
10/27/2021 10:38 pm

Effective communication is essential when it comes to a successful long-distance relationship. Not just how and what you communicate, but when you do it, too. It helps to establish some sort of schedule when it comes to communication, and although routine might not sound romantic, it can play an important part. Most of us feel secure with routine; it reassures us to know that something's going to happen at a certain time on a certain day. And it's this feeling that can help your relationship survive, and even flourish. Find the most convenient time to e-mail your partner and then try and stick with it and build it into your daily schedule. Make sure it provides adequate time for you to put down how your day's gone and, more importantly, how you're feeling. (If you find that first thing in the morning works best for you, then you'll have the previous day's events to write about.) You might not be able to stick to this schedule all the time, but if you know you're going to have to deviate from it then let your partner know. If you're going to be away on business and won't have access to the internet, let your partner know so they won't worry when they don't get their 9am e-mail from you. It's that aspect of communication that's as important as what you actually say in any e-mail.


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G000dbuddy 34M  
1243 posts
10/27/2021 10:39 pm

Setting boundaries is also important when it comes to what you both want from the relationship. Again, it's not romantic to talk about your expectations, but if you want your long-distance relationship to have a chance of working, then you should discuss these things. It's OK to let your lover know that you don't want to be doing what you're doing in 18 months' time. Approach the subject with a "so, do you see us still doing this next September?" opener and take it from there. But try and be honest. Although you won't know how you're going to be feeling next September, let your partner know, based on what you're feeling now, how you believe you might feel and what you will be looking for where your relationship's concerned. Discussions such as these can help both parties understand the commitment each other is prepared to make to the relationship. No one wants to feel that what they're putting into the relationship isn't being matched by their partner—and that goes for anything from e-mail exchange to the number of visits each party makes.

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1243 posts
10/27/2021 10:40 pm

Setting some sort of "expiry date" to the long distance aspect of your relationship is a good idea. Although you might not want to do this until you're a little more certain that he or she is "the one," once you've made up your mind, then you really don't want to feel that you're going to have to wait indefinitely before you can do all those things other couples take for granted. And when you and your partner talk about the future, try to do so in a practical and purposeful way. If you're both serious about your relationship, it shouldn't be too difficult for you both to come up with concrete suggestions to enable the two of you to be together on a daily basis.

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1243 posts
10/27/2021 10:41 pm

It goes without saying that trust is paramount—in any relationship, long-distance or otherwise. In a long-distance relationship, however, sexual fidelity has to be discussed and, as with most other factors, parameters have to be set. At the beginning of your relationship, establish with your partner the boundaries where relationships with others are concerned. If you want a monogamous relationship then it's paramount that you tell your partner. Disaster awaits the person who embarks on a long-distance relationship with the attitude that she knows "he wouldn't sleep with anyone else." Admittedly, even if your partner says he doesn't want to sleep with anyone else, we all know that there are no solid guarantees in this game. But discussing this issue and agreeing on how you are going to conduct yourselves in relationships with others will give your relationship a greater chance of success.

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1243 posts
10/27/2021 10:42 pm

Although you and your partner might have agreed to conduct your relationship on a monogamous basis, that doesn't stop either of you having relationships with members of the opposite sex. However, it's best to be open and transparent about any relationship you do have. This will help allay any fears your partner might have. It's OK to say you like someone, that you find them funny and enjoy their company, although a little tact is always going to soften any delivery, especially if you know your partner might be feeling a little insecure.

Just because you're in a long-distance relationship and can't spend time together, doesn't mean that you can't have a social life. It's important for people in such a relationship to have a social life and a network of friends—these can prove invaluable when it comes to offering support during those more difficult times when missing your partner has rendered you pretty low. Your partner shouldn't want you to curtail any of your social activities just because they can't join in. In fact, a loving and nurturing relationship involves wanting your other half to be happy, even if it is, at times, without you! Try not to dig too deep for facts about any nights out, especially where attractive members of the opposite sex are concerned. If you've established that you are both going to be monogamous then that should be enough.

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1243 posts
10/27/2021 10:43 pm

Even though you can't go to the movies together, you can still see the same films and then discuss them afterwards. This gives an added dimension to the relationship and can help you both avoid becoming a little too "introspective." You can do the same with books.

Try and find an online game you both enjoy playing. Many of these allow you to "chat" while you're playing thereby giving you an additional channel of communication.

As important as routine can be, it's nice now and again to surprise your partner with a letter, or small gift, or even a postcard Also look out for articles in newspapers or magazines that you think your partner will appreciate reading, and send these off—again, the element of surprise adds to this gesture (this works especially well if you live in different countries and would have little chance of coming across the article otherwise). It's nice for your partner to know that you were thinking of him or her, even when doing something as ordinary as reading the paper!

Above all, keep faith in your partner, and your relationship. And then when the time comes and you can be together every day, those endless days spent wishing you could be together will seem to belong in another life. The only thing you'll be wishing for then is that he or she made the bed a little more often! Comments are welcome..

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1243 posts
10/27/2021 10:45 pm

Good relationships can offer support, companionship, and room for personal growth. These elements thrive when both partners are emotionally prepared assist and support each other. the other hand, relationships can go sour quickly if each person requires a lot of attention, without offering much, because he or she uses relationships something counter his or her personal unhappiness. Be sure that you are in an emotional and mental place where you are prepared give much you receive.
In many ways, serious relationships are a string of compromises. You have reach mutual decisions about where you want go, what you want do, where you want live, the type of lifestyle you aspire lead, and what you want out of your relationship. If you live together, you also have to compromise about types of domestic habits. When you're not prepared take part in several serious, potentially life-changing compromises, you're likely not ready for a relationship. That's not say you should never stick your guns about certain decisions, but most productive relationships involve a substantial amount of give-and-take.

You're not sure what you want out of a relationship.
Relationships require a lot of communication about needs and wants. Articulating these things can be difficult enough even if you have a clear idea of what they are. If you're unsure of what you want out of a relationship, communication breakdowns are more likely become a problem. You're better prepared enter into a beneficial relationship if you have done enough self-reflection to know what you require from a relationship.

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1243 posts
10/27/2021 10:46 pm

If your last relationship still feels fresh in your mind, even if it ended a long time ago, you should probably wait before diving into a new one. Any lingering feelings of bitterness, jealousy, or sorrow could easily seep into your new relationship. Without even realizing it, those leftover feelings might cause you to sabotage what you have with a new partner, even if it could have been great without the emotional baggage.

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1243 posts
10/27/2021 10:47 pm

Having sex to make up after arguments is common in sex-based relationships. The couple has sexual relations then everything is fine until the next argument but the problem remains because they are not solving the issues. The couple usually spends most of their time breaking up and then making up again. Can this type of relationship work? A relationship needs substance and a secure foundation to succeed. This type of relationship can work if the couple matures beyond just the physical attraction and sexual chemistry.

People sometimes confuse intimacy with sex. Being intimate with someone is much more than just having sexual relations. Physical intimacy can develop rather quickly but intimacy on a deeper emotional level takes time. Sex is a temporary fix but it cannot fulfill the need for true intimacy. People that engage in superficial relationships such as those that are centered on sex, often fear commitment. They long for closeness but fear being hurt. The fear makes it difficult to become intimate on any other level other than a sexual level. They opt for lust rather than love so they can experience closeness without allowing their emotions to be involved in order to avoid being hurt.

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1243 posts
10/27/2021 10:49 pm

The older partner already has family commitments
from a previous relationship, which can cause friction
with their current partner. On a similar , the possibility
of starting a family may lead to tension where the younger
person would like to have children but their older partner
has a family from a previous relationship, and doesn't
want to have any more children.
Partners in relationships with large age gaps often find
it difficult to relate to their partner's friends,
sometimes finding their older partner's friends
boring or their younger partner's friends immature.
Even if this is not the case, their partner's friends
often leave them out of the group, either consciously or
subconsciously. Similarly, partners may have different
ideas of fun places for dates.
As with any relationship, insecurity is of the main
issues which can destroy a happy couple. When in relationships
with an age gap, partners often find themselves worrying
that their other half will run off with someone their own
age.
If the relationship is meant to be then the partner will understand any issues, and be willing to work towards resolving them. Many people in these relationships, particularly the older partner, make the mistake of bottling up their feelings, assuming that their partner will not
understand due to the age difference, or is too immature
to want to change. Communication is of particular importance
with regards to future plans for marriage and family.
Some relationships with age gaps simply won't work,
as with any relationships, however by talking things through
and making the effort to respect your partner's needs
you can increase the chances of making the relationship
work in the longer term.

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1243 posts
10/29/2021 5:36 am

He sweet-talks constantly
You might be being played if the man you're talking to has nothing but sweet things to say all the time. It's nice to be sweet-talked and romanced, but that can't be your entire communication with him. If you're looking for a real relationship, it can't all be fantasy. It's important to have real conversations. If he tells you that he loves you early on and that you're the one for him, but he doesn't really know you, you're probably being played.

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1243 posts
10/29/2021 5:37 am

He talks, but doesn't act
People can make themselves into anyone they want to be online. A man can say that he's a businessman who volunteers on the weekends, but does he actually do them? Some people talk a big game to make a good impression, but don't actually do what they claim. Someone who lies for whatever reason, is playing you. Don't be afraid to call out inconsistencies that you find between what he says and what he does.

goodbuddy781


G000dbuddy 34M  
1243 posts
10/29/2021 5:38 am

He disappears a lot
If the man you're talking to disappears a lot, or during certain hours consistently, you might be being played. If a man cannot talk to you outside of work hours, this suggests that he has a girlfriend or wife and family in real life. A man who is free from outside romantic relationships will not have such strict rules about when he can and cannot talk.

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1243 posts
10/29/2021 5:39 am

He doesn't have an interest in meeting in person
Meeting people online is great, but eventually it has to move to real life. If your suggestions to meet up for coffee are constantly turned down, you might be dealing with an online player who is just having a good time online and intends nothing more to happen

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1243 posts
10/29/2021 5:43 am

From the time females are little girls until the time they become grown women, they are inundated with the world's perception that bigger breasts are better breasts. Cleavage or practically bare bosoms appear everywhere in print publications from the tabloids to center-page spreads of glossy magazines to fashion magazine covers to billboards across the highways. Plus, they appear in live or taped productions of the evening news, cinematic productions, racy soap operas, and theaters.

No matter where you look or what you do, you are bound to spot a few well-developed, curvaceous breasts staring at you from quite a few vantage points. As if that weren't enough, the world has given us wet t-shirt contests, see-through fabrics, string bikinis, and balconettes to emphasize the very simple fact that a woman's breasts are one of her most important features.

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1243 posts
10/29/2021 5:44 am

Holidays spur a flurry of lingerie shopping that seems to center around flimsy, sheer, lacey fabrics that fit into the palm of a man's hand and cover not much more on a woman's body. In fact, women's lingerie is designed to lift up, push out, or firm up her breasts in order to augment whatever delicate features she does have into something more to tantalize her significant other with.

Instead of flashing a pretty smile or batting her eyelashes at a man to get his attention, a woman simply needs to flash a bit of her boobs. No offense, but you all know that the quickest way to get a man's attention, to keep a man's attention, and to get what you want, whatever that might be, is to flash a bit of skin. And what better skin to flash than the soft, tender curves of a woman's breasts?

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1243 posts
10/29/2021 5:45 am

Tempting men to a frenzy is nothing new. It's just that women have become more subtle at it. Women pretend to be unaware that a full view of their breasts emerges every time they lean forward, that their nipples protrude through the delicate fabric of their bras, or that men might just become aroused if women's breasts keep staring at them.

Men, of course, pretend that their eyes don't keep slipping down from women's faces to their chests, that their arms or hands aren't purposely brushing up against women's chests, and that they aren't so enamored of the deep cleavage that they cannot think about anything else. Who can blame them? It's what women want... Right?

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G000dbuddy 34M  
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10/29/2021 7:55 am

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Having fought that battle and lost, I realize that attraction is primal.

You can't reason with it. You can't use logic against it.

The body wants what it wants, and reacts accordingly.

According to the meter, the body wants bazzoooms. Preferably, huge, skull-crushing Mams, but at least a C cup.

Call me shallow and vacuous, it is what it is. They are my Kryptonite.

Accordingly, I am mindful of my own weakness and am on guard against being manipulated by a gifted, yet black-souled female. I suppose many a foolish male has been lured upon the rocks and shoals of life, by some biologically-gifted Succubus.

I confess.

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G000dbuddy 34M  
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10/29/2021 7:56 am

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When in the Armed forces we had a saying, any more than a hand or a mouth full is to much

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G000dbuddy 34M  
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10/29/2021 7:57 am

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may be in the minority among men in my personal taste, but I like small breasts. Women with big boobs turn me off.

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G000dbuddy 34M  
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10/29/2021 7:59 am

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Some men are more turned on by a woman's rear than her breasts and part of a woman that men find most attractive is her lips her face her eyes her smile as research has borne this out and I'm sure they weren't afraid to be honest as it was anonymous research . I'm opposed to women exposing their breasts publicly because I think a man should find a woman attractive not just as a s*xual object but as a whole person with a mind as well as a body .but male chauvinism is alive and well if you're the only woman in a conversation with two or more men they will override, talk over you not listen not want to acknowledge that you have an opinion and god forbid you actually know more about the subject than they do . Then they might close down the topic entirely as its such an affront to their masculinity . Men want women to be simply objects and no matter how they like to pretend that they value women as equals they don't. I think the Harvey Weinstein scandal has borne this out .the most talented and beautiful women were reduced to objects of hate by him .lots of men hate women for being desirable and un attainable so women are blamed for getting because they were being what men want them to be yes I've had this said to me in wake of Weinstein scandal by more than one man . Women can never win this argument cos she's damned if she does and damned if she doesn't. Women will always be second to men no matter how we try . They want the whore and the virgin and not many or any woman suceeds at being both at once ......so you see we simply cant win.

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G000dbuddy 34M  
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10/29/2021 8:01 am

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Science has proved that men always look at what attracts them. Women look at men's faces. If men are looking you in the face all the time , he is not really attracted to you. Google it.
Women show their bosoms to trick you into looking there so they can write you off. It is a FACT!


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G000dbuddy 34M  
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10/29/2021 8:04 am

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As a younger man larger breasts were of s*xual desire. As I've matured, I've taken a look back at my serious relationships and none had large breasts. confused Yes they are a sight to behold, but as far as a necessity for a loving sensual relationship, it is all about the woman who enjoy pleasure from what they have.

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G000dbuddy 34M  
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10/29/2021 8:05 am

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There are so many things that go into making a woman attractive and sexy. her smile, the way she walks, her personality, her hips, her legs, her butt etc. etc. there are so many women who are small breasted but extrmely hot.


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G000dbuddy 34M  
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10/29/2021 8:06 am

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Abso f-ing lutetly! Only sick men like breast implants. Could you imagine men having rubber implanted into their tool! This world is so dumb now!!! Cosmetic surgery and fake implants.

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G000dbuddy 34M  
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10/29/2021 8:08 am

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The first thing I look at on a woman is her rear end, and as a way to judge her health, not in a s*xual way.

A woman only gets a flat rear end in one of two ways: too much alcohol, or she's never done sports regularly in her life. I'd rather see a woman with a round rear and a flat chest than vice versa.

Having said that, a good personality matters more.

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1243 posts
10/29/2021 8:23 pm

Have you ever watched the woman you want go for a man that you know is a waste of space? If this is something that's happened to you, perhaps you wondered why on earth an intelligent woman would make such a poor choice. This article explains why women pick unsuitable men to date and offers hope to the good guys out there.

You may have noticed that certain women always seem to go for men that treat them badly. If you're a decent guy, seeing the women you want go for complete losers time after time can be rather exasperating. So why do some women waste their time with bad guys? After all, the vast majority of women are able to spot a bad man when they see one. There is actually more than one reason why women tend to make poor choices when it comes to dating men.


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G000dbuddy 34M  
1243 posts
10/29/2021 8:23 pm

Dangerous Excitement
Bad men do not spend their evenings in front of the television with a mug of hot chocolate. Instead they go out, get drunk, flirt with several women, sleep around, and maybe even break the law. While definitely not advocating any of those things, one would have to admit that the lives of bad men are anything but boring. In fact they can seem very glamorous. This sense of danger and excitement can make unsuitable men seem very appealing. Dating a bad man makes a woman feel that she is a little bit wicked and naughty too.


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G000dbuddy 34M  
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10/29/2021 8:24 pm

A Challenge
Unsuitable men don't usually want to commit to one woman. They are womanizers, and they enjoy playing the field. Thus this type of man represents a challenge to a woman. She thinks that she'll be the one to transform him into a faithful and loving partner, but she won't. She also believes she can change him, but she's wrong about that too. Nevertheless, it's human nature to long for what you can't have. Nice men do not present much of a challenge to women. That's because decent men are usually open and upfront about their feelings, and this can make them seem too easy to have.

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G000dbuddy 34M  
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10/29/2021 8:25 pm

He Seems Confident
Because bad guys are usually players, they tend to have a lot of experience with women. They are the men that know exactly what to say and do to pick up women in night clubs and other venues. Bad men know precisely what it is they want, and they are not afraid to take it. This gives women the impression that bad guys are confident and self-assured. Nice men are not brazen enough to approach a woman and start flirting insistently. That's because they worry that it will make them seem overly forward and presumptuous. Hence the nice guys are often overlooked.

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G000dbuddy 34M  
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10/29/2021 8:26 pm

She Feels Special
The bad guy knows he can have his choice of women, and that gives him extra appeal. When a woman becomes the girlfriend of a bad man, she feels that she is special because he picked her rather than one of the hundreds of other women he could have had. This makes the woman feel gorgeous, and gives her ego a boost. Her bad boyfriend may be unfaithful, but that's fine provided he comes home to her at the end of the day.

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G000dbuddy 34M  
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10/29/2021 8:26 pm

Love of Drama
A loving and contented relationship can come to feel boring for the type of young woman who craves drama and excitement. When a woman is happy and content with a good man, there aren't as many dramas, arguments or disagreements. Instead, things are pretty much peaceful and serene. Being with a bad guy is usually painful, but there is no shortage of drama. A relationship with a bad man is always full of discord and upset. There is very likely to be a pattern of breaking up and getting back together. This pattern is bitter-sweet, and therefore addictive. After a while, women who date one bad guy after another come to think that love should hurt, and feel that anything less than pain is mundane.

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G000dbuddy 34M  
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10/29/2021 8:27 pm

Fear of Commitment
Some women unconsciously pick bad men to date because they are still hurting from a recent break up. Commitment is the last thing they want, even though they may not be aware of it. If a woman chooses a guy she knows has a bad character, then there is next to no chance that the relationship will develop into something more meaningful. Hence the odds of the woman getting hurt again are significantly reduced. After all, a man cannot break a woman's trust if she doesn't have any confidence in him to begin with.

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Art4urPleasure 55M
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10/30/2021 3:09 am

I enjoy communicating on Dinner Contacts with real folks. I don't enjoy the fakers though. The real hook ups I have enjoyed make it worth putting up with the fakes.


G000dbuddy 34M  
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10/30/2021 3:21 am

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Coz women love bad guys perhaps?
Are somehow attracted to bad guys maybe?
I got no clue,and believe me i've tried to understand women...
James Bond 007 compared to that mission of understanding women its a joke.
At least from the point of view of a pragmatic person and pretty much skeptic.

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G000dbuddy 34M  
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10/30/2021 3:23 am

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1)Girls pick the guys, not the other way around.

2) Some girls DO go for dirtbags and Bad Boys. Dunno why, but then again attraction is primal.

3) IF the female survives and IF she wakes up, she'll recognize the good feeling of not living in constant fear. If not, she may be one of many self-induced DV casualties. In my line of work, we'd find a damsel in distress, move heaven and Earth to help her find shelter, and keep the beater from her, and in short order, she's selected another beater, just as bad as the first. Perhaps a psychologist can give a better analysis.

4) Assuming this particular female wakes up, what sort of damage has she sustained? Permanent damage? STDs? Kids? Is she even desirable at this point?

5) I suppose the results vary by the individual, but this is what happens when we are governed by emotions, unchecked by logic.

6) Contrariwise, I suppose just as many, if not more, women are very practical in mate selection. Guys who were nerds in high school, but now commanding 6 figures, are as likely as not able to meet up with a fine woman.

There is an ancient Chinese saying: "In writings (books) there are Golden Houses."
The translation being, those who land a learned profession can obtain fine houses, wives, etc..

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G000dbuddy 34M  
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10/30/2021 3:24 am

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Because devil has corrupted and spoiled almost all women and men, men is better to not get married
with woman in this life!So to be alone better than to have woman.
This world is evil ,soon have its end.so many people loves evil and refuse good.
Those that accept good and refuse evil,shall be saved and live in perfect good world!

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G000dbuddy 34M  
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10/30/2021 3:25 am

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Yes this article is true but real recognizes real and a good woman will choose a good man over the bad guy anyday.
Bad guys are bad news and vice versa! I say be smart and choose wisely or you could have a lifetime of heartbreak just from thinking with your eyes instead of your brain

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G000dbuddy 34M  
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10/30/2021 3:27 am

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From a psychological perceptive,
both victim and the masked share mirrored narcissism.
The victim unmasks the narcissist.
Victim evolves into the narcissism baring a mask or continues being the victim.
While the narcissist finds a new victim...and so the act continues.

From a spiritual aspect,
both light and dark, dance as one
to experience pain and pleasure.

The dark becomes light
and the light becomes dark.
The transfer for karma is completed.

One that played the light in previous act becomes the dark in this next drama.
One that played the dark in previous play becomes the light in this next scene.
This cycle or wheel is known as dharma.

For one becomes whole,
bringing contrast to living.

From an electrical view,
On a circuit board of resistance, power, and currency.
Can you turn her off, there?
And can you turn her on, here?
If one can do this in many places.
...This is "power"...they are attracted to it.

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1243 posts
10/30/2021 3:28 am

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All my days I have seem to attract dominate women hence they see me as pu**y whipped to the 10th degree. Many have no respect because of that. A guy needs to earn that respect. First impression counts. If a guy shows he is strong and in control of his life there is a natural attraction ftom women as they seek a leader not a follower. Ever notice in every romance story there is always a hero and a damsel in distress? No matter how much women today claim they dont need a rescue they dont want to be led around on a leash and they think they are so empowered to run corporations or even the presidency deep down they still want a man who is not a momma's boy or some panty waist. Women may want their equal as men do but, the tide is shifting with empowerment of women who are declaring they had enough of abuse from men and making choices to suit them. There is nothing wrong with that. However, men need to still maintain their status in the race or fall on the wayside. The bad guy vs nice guy is always in conflict within himself. Some men display more of the bad guy persona for protection of his ego against other bad guys. Bad guys also have to be in touch with their goodness offering compassion. Women will sometimes gauge how they will be treated by their men by how men get along with their mother. If men dont get along with mom they wont get along with women in general.

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G000dbuddy 34M  
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10/30/2021 3:29 am

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There is elements of some selective 'half truths' is this article and on the other hand it's totally wrong. It's not a universal given and it's all relative as most things in life are. It's subjective depending on the person. Women with low self esteem and abandonment issues will unconsciously pick the men that will full-fill their sick need for abandonment. They will choose insecure relationships because it will match their insecure relationship with their father. The degree of dysfunction which occurred will be to the same degree that they will the person who will match that dysfunction in their present lives. The worse they were neglected the worse the partner they choose can often be. If they were beaten as children they can often gravitate towards a domestic abuser in later life. However, the converse occurs on the other side. A healthy well adjusted young woman will choose nice men who also have a healthy sense of self esteem and will treat them right. Men also can choose women who match their own childhood relationships with their mothers. There is a theory that we unconsciously choose the very people whom will expose the shortcomings and dysfunctions we need to address in ourselves.
So this article is wrong in that it makes a bold and sweeping generalisations about 'women'. It's actually barbed in a tone of misogynistic resentment towards women. I feel he is actually twisting a certain amount of half truths to take a pot shot at women with his own subjective readings from popular psychology. So women picking bad boys is relative to the degree they have suffered dysfunction and how they feel about themselves and the converse is true where healthy women will choose nice men relative to the their own sense of self worth. The person who wrote this is to be possibly a manipulative individual who uses any awareness and insights into how he can manipulate vulnerable women.

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1243 posts
10/30/2021 3:30 am

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The most accurate point this article makes is that most women are attracted by a challenge. And most nice guys are never a challenge. This doesn't mean you can not be a challenge if you are a nice guy, and also does not mean you have to be "bad" when being a challenge for women. It usually means you don't kiss a**, you can give a negative compliment and you don't apologize for having s*xual desires!
Gentle men are a thing of the past, mostly because of women. Women do not want poetry or chivalry, at least not when you approach them. They want a cocky, confident MAN who has the balls to take what he wants. Is this good relationship material? Please don't become a "bad guy" be proud of being a nice guy, but don't be whipped by some woman who you know nothing about except looks.

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G000dbuddy 34M  
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10/30/2021 3:32 am

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i ever try to be more sincere and faithful in my relationships but i am rejected by females ever.I,m always surprised ,why women prefer bad guys and attracted to them?I tried to be a bad guy to attract women but i failed due to my nature.Now i am 42 years old but don,t have any girlfriend and i am disappointed that no female want me because women want evil and bad guys.Women ever blame on men that they are flirt but they never think about their poor choice.All men are not flirt it,s a result of their own choice.They suffer from their own selection.

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G000dbuddy 34M  
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10/30/2021 3:33 am

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This a great article and so true. I was married to a so called bad Guy for many years. I will be very careful the next time I choose someone.

The thing is that opposite sides attract and the good kind men will be attracted to the Bad ladies. So in the end no one will be happy for very long.

You see the cheaters should all be together the males and females but they choose the ones they can walk over. I met a man who was complaining about his ex- wife and my ex had the same ways. I think that both our partners should have been together.

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G000dbuddy 34M  
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10/30/2021 3:34 am

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Ahh but some of us are the reverse. We look for the good guys, beat our heads against the wall when they'd rather be with mean/ bossy girls - especially when we're only ever viewed as 'just friends' material.

I could equally ask why is it men _say_ they want women to be honest and straight-forward and then ignore any woman who is?

Or I could ask why men moan about having to pay for everything and then get shirty on a date if I offer to pay. Both genders can be guilty of confusing inconsistencies.

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G000dbuddy 34M  
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10/30/2021 3:36 am

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excellent description....

to summarize it all: we all at one time fall for PRETTY WORDS....
also they are professional cons..... they are GOOD at the game.
I stayed in a marriage for 25 years, because I listened to the PRETTY WORDS, not the actions...
however, when I saw the actions, his PRETTY WORDS were always the stronger of the two....
yeah, people say, "you just didn't want to know", my reaction is: "the hell I didn't", I just couldn't catch him.....
Now, at my age, I would give a million dollars to find a good man, and he wouldn't have to speak any PRETTY WORDS, he would just need to wrap me in his loving arms and let his heart speak!

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1243 posts
10/30/2021 11:30 pm

As someone who is unfamiliar with receiving messages from 'scammers' on dating websites, I quickly read and learned how to spot a likely scammer. The saddest part is, the 'scammers' are much more complimentary and emotionally outgoing than the average man.
I have been told by apparent scammers that I am 'the paragon of beauty', 'most beautiful girl' and 'I am in love with you, I am'. The majority of my flowerbox bouquets have been from apparent 'scammers'.

Why are other men not so willing to express themselves? Hmm.. I'll take honest expression and chivalry anyday! Perhaps there is something for the average man to learn here from these other men.

Oh, sure, they want something from you, but at least those labeled 'scammers' express themselves openly.. ha. What happened to manners, men? Holding doors and taking care of a woman because you WANT to, not because you want something in return?

Consider this: There is nothing wrong with wanting to be taken care of and caring for someone in return. If you do not wish to do this, why are you on a dating site?

Most men, upon hearing that a woman wants security, thinks 'golddigger'. As someone who was raised in an upper-middle-class family, my cousins married a doctor and a lawyer respectively, AFTER the women had built up their own career with good salaries and even bought their own home at age 24-25! Many polls have shown that a wealthy, successful man wants to marry a woman who has her own career and money.

Supporting your wife and 'letting' her stay at home and be a homemaker is done out of genuine love sometimes, you know. They line the streets of the neighborhoods I was raised in.

Just food for thought. Many men who are willing to do this, and wish to be cared for in return, are often happily married right now.

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G000dbuddy 34M  
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10/30/2021 11:30 pm

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The internet is to blame for people not making the effort to impress the other.

One can lay in PJ and write, then turn off the machine and talk to another the next day.

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G000dbuddy 34M  
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10/30/2021 11:31 pm

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There are good and bad peoples all around world. This site is no exception. Everyone comes here with different goals. Its tough to find right person but not impossible.

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G000dbuddy 34M  
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10/30/2021 11:33 pm

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I actually came across one scammer earlier. The account stated she was 86, but the photo looked much younger. I do agree, alot of scammers have atrocious grammar
I don't usually get messages from scammers, but I come on here and look for them so I can report them. There are a lot of nice people here, and I do not want to see you being taken advantage of

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G000dbuddy 34M  
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10/30/2021 11:35 pm

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This site is being taken over by scammers and there seems to be no effort to stop them .the blatant lies total contradictions in their profiles with pictures that don't even match the description in the profile . What's worst is the insult to my intelligence . Do they think any woman over age 60 is so desperate for male flattery that they will be taken in by their expressions of love and other nonsense remarks ? . I receive an average of 3 scammers per day if I'm online they just trawl through and try hitting if your online. I think every one needs to start reporting them . I often reply and tell them they're scammers and then they delete the profile .I know they will just create another but if every one shows them they've been sussed every time maybe they'll get the message and go to another site . I have to block north America as most pretend to be from usa as if it's the most desirable nationality in the world . It is for them obviously but not for every one. They are mostly Nigerian or Romanians who spend their days behind banks of computer screens trying to scam people . I talked to guy who was in contact with Russian woman and had sent her expensive jewellery she had asked for 500 for fare to Ireland. I tried warning him but he wanted to believe some stunning Russian woman was going to love him . It seems the less desirable they actually are the more they want to believe the illusion .What can you say some people are deluded want to believe this successful handsome high-powered person had fallen for them . Life isn't a fairy tale and dating online is more fiction than fact .most men lie about their age marital status dating history . Most men want sex asap that's it .most men are huge disappointment .the world of dating online is .........I've no words left ......well one or two ......a fruitless quest yes thats 3 words

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G000dbuddy 34M  
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10/30/2021 11:36 pm

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I see the same picture(s) on their profiles that's been there for the last 10/15 years, with no changes,
Wonder if the scammers think people don't notice ' WE DO NOTICE '
One person can have about 40 profiles, you block one then they try to contact you with another profile, the pattern is easy to notice....

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G000dbuddy 34M  
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10/30/2021 11:37 pm

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Good morning ??
I can tell by the first intro, I don't even bother replying, I just delete their messages,
Their usual requests are the same, especially new members n how all of a sudden their previous profile(s) is deactivated,
The other day a man was talking about love n sex, then they ask about kids !!! Wow what the heck were YOU thinking when you mention sex then ask about kids ???? What is wrong about THIS situation ??? It kinda threw me..

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G000dbuddy 34M  
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10/30/2021 11:38 pm

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I notice most of the people posting in this thread , are using scammer grammar.

But that aside, lets answer your question.

A scammer is someone who says what they think you want to hear to give them what they want.
They are NOT open with their emotions (it is all a lie to get your money/bank account info)
They are NOT honest with you (they simply say what normally gets them your money/bank account info)
They are NOT complimentary in what they say (It is simply what normally gets them your money/bank account info).

Do you see the pattern yet?

And as a man who is health, wealthy (made my own money thank you very much) in good shape, and a lot of fun to be around... and not even 40 yet... I have found expressing my emotions like this does not get me a happy married life but instead emotionally traumatized/stunted proto chicks who want a live in butler/walking atm. (at least in the USA, I will probably go back to Europe to get some real women as non seem to exist state side anymore.)

But that is just my experience.

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G000dbuddy 34M  
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10/30/2021 11:40 pm

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Most scammers on here use very bad English (level of the Kindergarten). That's because they are really from overseas and using Google Translate to write to you, but of course, they will try to appear to be an American man.
Way too fast they will ask you what you do for living. Do not answer it. Yet. I say I do what it takes.
Most scammers will try to get you off this site way too fast, offering to exchange emails, phone numbers or Hangout apps or whatever. Do not do it. I always say to them: all communications will be on here only until AFTER I meet you in person. And even then only if I liked you in person than and only than will i provide my number.
Most scammers have real problem with posting additional 5-6 photos of himself. That's because he stole few on the Internet and has nothing left to steal of the same person in the photo because IT IS NOT HIM. Do not ever give your email, number so he can text you his additional photos. IF HE WAS ABLE TO POST HIS PHOTO (OR TW ON HER, THERE IS NO REASON ON EARTH WHY HE COULD NOT POST ADDITIONAL PHOTOS OF HIMSELF ON HERE AGAIN.
He wants to get your personal email, phone number to contaminate it with computer viruses Trojans etc. that will steal your passwords to bank accounts etc. and sell it on dark web.
Ladies, for crying out loud, use your heads, don't be a "fruit cake"!
Have standards. It's up to you to have them and stick by them.
Your goal is to make him meet you in person, in public place, as soon as possible. face to face. So you can judge that he is real and then using your intuition you will see what he is all about.

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1243 posts
10/31/2021 3:00 am

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Scammers get into your head,showering you with flattery and compliments to gain your trust.Once they see that you have succumb to their " flattery and "fake" attention, and gained your trust by telling you " so much about themselves" All lies of course. Then comes the first part of the scam. They tell you things like their baby sister needs surgery but the family cant afford it.Or they have a "friend" who is in trouble and asked them for financial help but as" they "dont make much money , they are unable to help their "desperate friend".
Hoping to appeal to you as their compassionate good friend to stump up and send money to a PO Box in Tunisia, Ghana , Ivory Coast etc etc.
Another one is that the would love to visit you. They will claim to have been to your country before , but of course they are strapped for cash.
Another scam is pretending to be in the Military or they are Bank Manager.(why would a bank manager be offering you a job via a date site ?.Go figure it out.
They lying , scamming slugs out to decieve you and con you out of money.So no matter how much they flatter you, write you gushy poems and declare their " fake love" for you. Take it like you would dog sh*t on your shoe.Cause these con artists are lower than a snails A*s..Word of advice. Dont get involved. Preventions better than cure.

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G000dbuddy 34M  
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10/31/2021 3:02 am

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All scammers tell you what they know you want to hear. They only set you up to either, send them money or get them out of the country they are in. They need a sponsor to do it, and that costs money even just to meet you.
I have found in the past 20yrs it's all the same, they want something. I found the best way is to insists they come and meet you, if they make excuses or say they do not have the money to come, or ask you to send the money for their ticket,m forget them.

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1243 posts
10/31/2021 3:04 am

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Uhhh, well...here’s the thing, I don’t see how a person could EVER fall “in-love” with a person whom they’ve never met face-to-face and actually spent a significant amount of time with in-order to actually develop true feelings of love and not just a surge of chemicals being released in your brain due to this fantasy person you’ve concocted. Ladies and gentlemen, keep your feelings at-bay until you’ve actually met the person and have actually gone on at least a few real dates lol. Anyone asking for something like money is an automatic call-them-out and end contact for me...put your feelings aside and think with your brain analytically, no need to contact authorities because scammers are like roaches, they are impossible to get rid of, so don’t get yourself worked up over something that cannot truly be created in cyber space (love). Just keep your senses about you and be smart, there should NEVER be a time when a person is scammed online by anyone as long as you’re smart and don’t allow your emotions to rule you, learn to master your emotions before you decide to pursue dating ANYONE.

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1243 posts
10/31/2021 3:05 am

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I just want to say that all nice, polite and complimentary guys aren't "scammers"! I have no real experience with any "scamming" on this or any other site, beyond the relatively obvious "working girls". So I have no idea what others are experiencing, but some nice people are just that, and I hate to see a whole genre of personalities lumped in with the dregs of the society! I hope the whole world doesn't turn into a sea of jaded mistrust and suspicion, but I understand the effects of a con. Hopefully we can keep a sliver of trust in our hearts that SOME things are just as they seem, and not every person or event is filled with a conspiracy of hate and fear.

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1243 posts
10/31/2021 3:12 am

Social networking is something that most people are into because it's a great way to keep in touch with everyone. When you're a couple who are into the social networking scene, there are a few warning signs to be on the lookout for. Here are 4 of those warning signs.

He won't list you as his girlfriend
Not only won't he list you as his girlfriend, but he refuses to set his status to "in a relationship." This is cause for worry. While some people don't like to make every detail of their life public, this is one that doesn't exactly invade privacy. It lets people know that you're taken and not single. You have to wonder why he doesn't want people to know that he's in a relationship.

He has a 2nd account he won't add you to
Your boyfriend set up a second account on the same site, but won't add you to it. This is another action that should worry you. Maybe he made an excuse like he's only using it for his job and doesn't want to get the two mixed up. That is still no reason to leave you off of the list unless he doesn't want you to see something.

He asks you to not post any photos of him
If he wants zero pictures on his account at all, this request makes complete sense. On the other hand, if he posts pictures of himself and asks that you don't post any or tag him, this is suspicious behaviour. This makes it look like he doesn't want people to know that you are together.

He has far more women than men as friends
You glanced at your boyfriend's friend list and noticed that it mostly contains women. What's more, they are women that you've never heard of from destinations all over the world. When you ask him about them he'll claim they are people he met somewhere, but won't go into specifics or tell you anything about them.

While it's not good to be paranoid about every move that your boyfriend makes on social networking sites, there are some actions that require further investigation. Not everything is a sign that your relationship is doomed, but when something makes you wonder, it's worth looking into..

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1243 posts
10/31/2021 3:22 am

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oh, you missed one
"He won't put you on ANY of his social networking accounts at all"

unless, like me, there is zero social networking site/service activity, I would say that not adding you at all would be a bad sign.

and yes, no facebook, twitter, reddit, linkedin, instagram, g+ ... [ ad nausium ] accounts for me.
I would rather hear about my friends and loved ones day in person than through intrusive technologies that interrupt your day to inform you.

Agree with this article. Another thing to watch out for are the settings. Are you getting all the newsfeeds or are you excluded from certain feeds or certain apps. (i.e. if there's never anything coming from his newsfeed, ask yourself whether you've been excluded from the feed) and start paying attention.

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1243 posts
10/31/2021 7:43 pm

Here are 7 things that might seems little, but might really annoy the guy you like.

You change his presets
Just because he's your boyfriend and might let you drive his car sometimes, doesn't give you the right to change his radio presets. In your car the presets are yours. It doesn't matter if you don't like what he listens to or want to influence him to listen to something new. Doing this will definitely annoy your boyfriend.

You talk during sports
Doesn't matter what sport your boyfriend is into, if he loves it, you need to avoid being a chatterbox. Most men get into a zone when they watch sports, so he probably won't hear you anyway. You'll end up mad that he's not listening, but he'll be mad that you're trying to take his attention away from the game. Instead of talking during the game, wait until commercials or game breaks.

You text him 50 times a day
While you might assume he'd be flattered that you're always thinking about him, consider how you would feel if you got texts from anyone that many times a day. Give him a chance to miss you. Texting him so much is only going to do the opposite.

You peek in his phone
This is a major no-no. No peeking in his phone while he's in the shower. Whether you're just curious or you're suspicious, it's important that you talk to him instead of sneaking around. Eventually, he will find out that you did it. He'll likely find out from you because you'll probably have a question about a name or picture you saw. A guy who isn't doing anything wrong will be annoyed that he has to protect his phone from you. Just because he's not doing anything wrong, doesn't mean you should be able to snoop through his phone anytime you want.

You smother him
You might do this because you love him, but over time your constant attention will become too much. Your boyfriend doesn't need you to take care of him constantly. Remember that he's a grown man and not a child.

You put yourself down to receive compliments
This behavior is annoying coming from anyone, but you don't want to try this with your boyfriend. Guys already feel like they can't win when it comes to giving compliments to their girlfriends, so you don't want to fish around for compliments. Putting yourself down, whether in honesty or an attempt to get compliments is not an attractive quality.

You talk abut your exes
Whether you are bad-mouthing your exes or talking about them fondly, the experience won't likely be pleasant for your current boyfriend. Of course he realizes that you had boyfriends before him, but that doesn't mean you need to relive the relationship with him.

It's the annoying LITTLE habits that can break a relationship. It's important to take your guy's feelings into consideration. If you don't, it might mean the end of your relationship.

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1243 posts
10/31/2021 7:45 pm

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One girl a long time ago turned my computer on and viewed who knows what on it without my knowledge or consent. THEN she was angry at me and snapped at me quite angrily over something she saw on there. IJ never did hear what she said. Maybe it was a made-up something. I didnt know any better (never taught a single practical thing-and that was intentional.)
She continued to spend my money down and at the same time to become more enraged that i didnt give her MORE money. She was THAT kind of person. So now what i know better, i dump the few girls who come my way real fast, when they start doing that sort of thing. I wont forgive it ONCE, for one minute. And no apology or any other offering can fix it!
I finally learned my lesson during my marriage. She did more than mess with my computer.
My ex wife made me fully realize there's some things you can't fix

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1243 posts
11/1/2021 1:53 am

Spending time away from each other can be crucial to the longevity of a couple. But how can space make a relationship even stronger? There are three main reasons why ignoring each other for a while may be good for your relationship.

Two's a Crowd
Even if it seems like you and your partner share the same brain, have the same interests, and finish each other's sentences, getting annoyed with each other will definitely happen if all you do is spend time together and never apart. Last week it was fine with you to skip "Weeds" for an episode of her favourite reality show, but this week you have to skip "CSI" for a re-run of "The Biggest Loser". You may not have minded playing a little video games with him when you wanted to go out and see the newest Angelina Jolie flick, but this week again you find yourself having to ditch something you want to do for something he does. Even though a relationship is about unity and also compromise, people often forget that they are individuals. It's perfectly healthy to disagree and want to do things apart. An intuitive person will know when blood is starting to boil and know when to suggest a timeout.

Many couples are afraid to do things apart because of what it may "mean". The only thing it means for an already healthy couple whose partners truly enjoy being in each other's company is that both individuals want to pursue individual interests, and there is nothing wrong with that. While someone should definitely make the effort to partake in their partner's interests from time to time, whether it be shopping or going to a bar, to expect that of them every time is unfair. After you get done shopping with the girls, or hanging out with the guys, you can rest assured that the feeling of coming back into your partner's arms will be even better. A little space can make a world of difference

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1243 posts
11/1/2021 1:54 am

You develop a greater appreciation for each other
What makes a vacation get-away so awesome is that you don't get to visit the destination often and have all that luxury treatment at your disposal. If you were on a vacation 24-7, not only would you start to take things for granted, it would not be as fun and exciting than if you had finally been able to go once after a hectic year of non-stop slaving in an office. It is the same thing for relationships. If your awesome guy or gal is constantly on your heels, you can easily start to take the great things they do for granted. One day you're telling your guy, "Thanks babes, I always love it when you massage me right after work." Soon you find yourself saying, "Wow, that was a short rub, babes. You usually do it longer and a little better than that." Give someone the time to miss you. However cliché it sounds, absence often does make the heart grow fonder.

For some people, the thought of letting their partner go out and do things on their own is a little frightening. Many people fear that they may be allowing cheating to happen if they let their mate mingle with the opposite sex when they are not around. But sometimes a harmless step back into the "single pool" with a bunch of single friends can be helpful to a relationship. If you really love your partner, accept their flaws, and love all the unique things about them, then every other member of the opposite sex that you meet just won't be able to meet up to their standards. It is always good to be reminded of what you have, and the best way to do that sometimes is by remembering exactly what qualities in a guy or girl turned you off and made you find the partner you're with now. Of course, this does not mean going out every night to a club by yourself with a person of the opposite sex. You are human. You want to be looking for space, not temptation. Whether you go shopping alone or spend a little time with friends, just make sure that at least once a week your mate is out of your sight and your mind is on other things. Of course, this does not mean neglect. You have to know where to draw the line between neglect and space, and you must communicate to your partner that wanting to take space isn't necessarily a bad thing. If you spend a little time away from each other, each next encounter will be a little sweeter. The more you allow someone to miss you is the more they'll want to call you from that club or call you when he is out with his buddies

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1243 posts
11/1/2021 1:58 am

You May Need To Re-evaluate Your Relationship
Every relationship will encounter rough times. In many cases, partners will come to the brink of splitting time and time again, but both are too afraid to initiate a real break up or a real timeout so they can think about the future. Space is sometimes very crucial when couples are teetering close to the break up line.
Sometimes relationships do need to be re-evaluated. Maybe one partner cheated on another and forgiveness hasn't really been decided upon yet. Maybe there needs to be more communication, some changes and compromises, but no one is willing to make any. Space at a time like this will have couples seeking out the advice of other neutral parties and getting a different perspective. It's a great time to get family advice from those who love and care about you.
Relationships can be exhausting and trying, but time away from each other to get a clear head may be the single most important thing you could ever do to help your relationship get back on track. Sometimes, the scare of space is enough to set a partner straight and make he or she realize that you are serious about certain changes or certain comprises coming into effect. Nothing is more eye-opening than seeing your girl or guy say goodbye and close the door behind them . . . possibly forever.

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1243 posts
11/1/2021 1:59 am

Couples have a better chance of getting back together and staying together when partners give themselves time to think things over and reflect upon what changes need to happen.

Space is a perfectly healthy thing in a relationship and will contribute to its longevity. If you give yourself time to breathe, time to keep growing individually as you grow as a couple, and time to develop an even better appreciation for each other, your relationship will definitely reach a new frontier.

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1243 posts
11/1/2021 7:53 pm

With social distancing rules in place, dating is wearing a different look these days. People wonder how they are supposed to stay 6 feet apart, yet still meet new people and go out on dates. It is possible. Here are some tips to make dating in 2021 safe, yet always fun

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1243 posts
11/1/2021 7:54 pm

Use Email, Video Chat, Messenger to Get to Know New People

The age of the internet provides people with more options for communication than they ever had before. Going out with someone or continuously inviting them into your homes is no longer the primary way of getting to know someone. Email, messenger, and texting are three great ways to get to know someone new before deciding if they are worth the risk during these scary times. If face-to-face conversation is more up your alley, there are video chat options on most cell phones and internet messaging apps. By utilizing these resources, dating with minimal to no health risks is still possible by using modern technology

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1243 posts
11/1/2021 7:55 pm

Consider Going on Some Virtual Dates
Because of technological advances, potential couples also can plan virtual dates, which many are finding to be a valuable option during the pandemic. Some popular ideas include:

• Playing an online life simulation game together
• Planning a Facetime dinner and movie together
• Solve a virtual escape room together
The options for virtual dating are seemingly limitless. The only aspect of regular dating that virtual dating does not offer is physical contact, and during the pandemic, physical contact with anyone outside of your household is highly discouraged

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1243 posts
11/1/2021 7:56 pm

Be Selective in Who You Meet in Person, if Anyone at All
When using the internet and dating apps to meet new people, it is always important to be selective about who you meet in person. However, during the pandemic, it is even more critical because there are now additional possible threats to your life and the lives of others with the COVID-19 virus rampant. When you meet someone in person, always wear a mask unless you intend to stay 6 feet apart

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1243 posts
11/1/2021 7:56 pm

Communicate Expected Social Distancing Practices
When dating during the pandemic, whether virtual or face-to-face, it is essential to communicate all of your expected social distancing practices with any potential partner. If you wish for mutual COVID-19 testing before physical contact, express it from the beginning. If you expect masks worn at all times during any face-to-face dates, make sure this is known. Doing so helps ensures the elimination of anyone who does not agree to your terms. This way is quick and eliminates potential unnecessary risks early on

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1243 posts
11/1/2021 7:58 pm

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One of the aspects of life most affected by the pandemic is the safety of dating and how to protect yourself from these new risks. Some people decide to put dating on hold until the virus is under control. Others do not do well with the loneliness. Following the above tips and advice to reduce the risks of dating during the pandemic.

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1243 posts
11/2/2021 7:46 am

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Avoid arguing.
You may or may not get back together with your ex in the future, but at first just listen to what he has to say. Arguing with him about the break-up will make you look desperate. It could also cause him to feel guilty and change his mind, but do you really want to be with someone who doesn't want to be with you?

Instead of arguing with him, listen to what he's saying. Is he telling you that his personal problems are interfering with the relationship or that he just doesn't feel the connection anymore?

Give yourself some time, at least a few days, to think about what he said. Then, if you still want to have a conversation, go ahead and express your feelings. Recognize that he might not see the situation the same way you see it.

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1243 posts
11/2/2021 8:02 pm

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Get off his social media.
Even if you plan to stay friends, take yourself off his social media accounts for now. Seeing pictures of him is just going to hurt you, especially if he starts posting about another woman.

When you've given your heart some time to heal, you can always add yourself back.

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1243 posts
11/2/2021 8:03 pm

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Recognize what was positive in the relationship.
You're not leaving this relationship with nothing. You still have good memories of happy times you spent together. Remind yourself to be thankful for those times instead of angry and sad.

You also might have learned some lessons about love and life, and that's valuable even if it's hard.

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1243 posts
11/2/2021 8:04 pm

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Look great.
You may feel like moping around the house in sweatpants, but it isn't going to get you anywhere. Give yourself a day or two to wallow in it, and then force yourself to stop.

Put on clothes you know look great on you, fix your hair and wear makeup. You are going to feel much better if you are happy with the way you look. A bonus is that if he sees you out and about, he'll remember what he's missing.

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1243 posts
11/2/2021 8:05 pm

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Be physically active.
Laying around on the couch eating ice cream may ease your pain for the moment, but it's going to hurt you in the long run. Instead, battle your sadness with something that's good for you. Go for a hike, jump on your bicycle or ask a friend for a game of tennis.

If you're angry, go to the gym and pretend his face is on a punching bag. Do whatever you can to keep moving.

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1243 posts
11/2/2021 8:07 pm

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Revisit an old hobby or start a new project.
Is there something in your life you used to love to do? Maybe you enjoyed painting, building furniture or playing the piano. Or is there a project you've been putting off that you could work on? Being productive and finishing a project will take your mind off your loneliness and give you a sense of accomplishment that will make you feel good.

This is the perfect time to remember how much you loved an old hobby. If you don't have anything to go back to, try something new. Take a yoga class, learn to sew or join a softball team. Your goal is to put your positive energy into something that takes your mind off the relationship

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1243 posts
11/2/2021 8:09 pm

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Go out with someone new.
When you feel ready, accept a date or ask someone out for coffee. Don't start looking for another commitment, but remember that you are attractive and desirable. Keep it light, and have fun flirting with new possibilities.

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1243 posts
11/2/2021 8:10 pm

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Stop having sex with him.
If you are still sleeping with your ex-boyfriend, stop immediately. It relieves the pain for a little while, but it's only going to break your heart over and over again. Intimacy with an ex creates a huge barrier to healing. Don't do that to yourself.

Being dumped is a horrible experience, but there are smart ways to get through it with as much positivity as possible.

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lonlyforlove2 79M
23040 posts
11/3/2021 6:02 pm

    Quoting G000dbuddy:
    Other comments 8
    Stop having sex with him.
    If you are still sleeping with your ex-boyfriend, stop immediately. It relieves the pain for a little while, but it's only going to break your heart over and over again. Intimacy with an ex creates a huge barrier to healing. Don't do that to yourself.

    Being dumped is a horrible experience, but there are smart ways to get through it with as much positivity as possible.
just like smoking, if you want to stop. just lay them down, no easy to quit.. cold turkey is overall the best.. even just a puff gets you started.. The best thing to do is find the substitute or permeate replacement....

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1243 posts
11/4/2021 6:11 am

As the saying goes, "Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus." the gap between the two sexes is not an easy task, but learning about each other is the first step towards a successful unity. Men in particular have simple expectations that every woman should know. Here are some of the most basic things that men want in a romantic relationship:

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1243 posts
11/4/2021 6:13 am

Clear Communication
Men get irritated when women expect them to read their minds. It is much better to simply say exactly what you want and what you mean. If you want to go out on a dinner date instead of spending time in front of the television, then just say so and do away with the drama. Be upfront and avoid situations where your partner will have to read between the lines. What may seem obvious for women may not be that clear for men.

Unanswered text messages and missed phone calls also cause arguments between couples. Some women have a tendency of getting upset when their partner fails to immediately reply to a text message. They throw a fit when their boyfriend does not pick up the phone after a few rings. This is a common pet peeve for men who are busy at work or other important activity. Women should understand that guys need the time to focus on other tasks and will respond to non-urgent messages as soon as they become available.


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G000dbuddy 34M  
1243 posts
11/4/2021 6:15 am

Openness in Sexual Matters
Communication about what make sexual relations better is very important to guys. Men will appreciate the opportunity to discuss what they want to do in bed and what experiments they want to try. Guys also want to know what works for you and what turns you on. They want to learn how to make the experience unforgettable. They also find it attractive if you mix things up and take initiative in bed. You can be more aggressive and reciprocate some of the things that he does to your body. Be mindful, however, that openly discussing preferences in bed does not mean that you can crush his ego at every turn. Men can be sensitive when it comes to sexual performance. It would be best if the discussion were both fun and constructive.


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citizen4722 63M  
73536 posts
11/4/2021 1:44 pm

All very good points G000dbuddy


G000dbuddy 34M  
1243 posts
11/5/2021 2:38 am

Trust Issues
Trust is a big concern for a lot of relationships. This is especially tricky if one of the parties has a history of cheating or flirting with other people. Guys in general detest it if women continuously spy on them or read their personal messages. Nothing is more irritating than a girlfriend who gets jealous without any valid reason. Women should also accept that it is possible for their boyfriends to have a platonic relationship with another female. It is okay to be protective and territorial as long as you act within reason. If you have been in a relationship with your guy for more than six months and you still have trust issues, then it may be best to reconsider the relationship


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G000dbuddy 34M  
1243 posts
11/5/2021 2:40 am

Respect the "Me Time"
Boys will be boys, and they will occasionally want to hang out with their buddies. This is normal behavior and you should not be upset because you have not been invited to go with them to a sports bar or a hockey game. Understand that sometimes, distance makes the heart grow fonder. Men who are given personal space appreciate the romantic time together so much more.


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G000dbuddy 34M  
1243 posts
11/5/2021 2:43 am

Insecurity is a big turnoff.

You should also bear in mind that while he is head over heels in love with you, he would still find other women attractive. Men will ogle at passersby who show off their nice legs and fantasize about a hot celebrity he saw on TV. This is not a reason for concern. At the end of the day, he still chose you.


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G000dbuddy 34M  
1243 posts
11/5/2021 10:30 am

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I agree that both sides need space and that discussion of all things is the most important part of a relationship but getting angry and upset is surely something which happens because of a lack of communication

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1243 posts
11/5/2021 10:31 am

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Wait! I disagree.

I need time to calm down before I can discuss things if I'm upset to that point. I'm pretty easy going- but sometimes a complete lack of awareness of what is going on in another person- or worse yet, complete disinterest- frustrates me to no end.

I communicate worlds better by text, email or other written words- because I can find the exact word that doesn't overstate or neglect what I'm trying to get across.

In real conversation however, I am usually torn between getting my point across in a fast manner- & finding the right words. Hence, sometimes I come across a lot stronger than I intended.

Women too need Women time & alone time & have work & tasks & cannot answer texts or phone calls whenever.

I think a lot of that article applies to both sexes- & my experience would add that it would be a benefit to many men to listen more

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1243 posts
11/5/2021 10:33 am

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It's be careful that you don't push him to the point that you can't resolve the problem, not a a guys needs are greater than a womans, more like, the communication needed to resolve issues can't happen if one person reaches a point where communication is not possible.

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1243 posts
11/5/2021 10:35 am

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In an assertiveness seminar I attended they had an interesting idea about Communication in a relationship, specifically when it is a disagreement.

Ladies, if you get him emotionally distraught [ pissed off, upset, angry ] you have taken away the majority of his ability to speak.
When a guy says I don't want to talk about it right now, it usually means he is to angry to think or articulate and he needs the time to cool off in order to be able to talk about it.

This is the exact opposite of what happens with women, they get angry / upset, their ability to communicate increases.

The seminar leader suggested that this goes back to before recorded history, men were silently stalking food [ silence and focus required ], women were chattering while gathering food and watching the children [ activities made easier with the group and talk ]

hmm, focus, interesting, ever noticed how hard it can be to distract a guy when he is completely focused on something? Think a highly developed capacity to focus in men from the hunter / gatherer era might have something to do with that?

The silence needed from the same time period made stressful / emotional situations reduce a males capacity to speak.

Like I started with, an interesting idea for the dynamics in a disagreement [ argument / fight ] between a couple

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Art4urPleasure 55M
594 posts
11/5/2021 4:45 pm

I only give advice when it is needed and mostly only when asked. Otherwise I have my lips zipped, unless it is a question about taking better photos for your profile. I love speaking up about that issue.


G000dbuddy 34M  
1243 posts
11/6/2021 12:46 am

Your expectations are too high
While it's perfectly fine to know what you're looking for in a boyfriend and have standards for yourself, you do want to make sure you're not creating a list of attributes that no one can live up to. You might only be willing to date someone who has a job and little or no debt. That is acceptable. On the other hand, if you decide you will only date millionaires, you are narrowing your pool of eligible men greatly. If you want to only date men who are university graduates, that is also acceptable. You might take it too far when you say he must have graduated from an Ivy League University. Check that your expectations aren't so high that you can never find a suitable man to date.

You make future plans on the second date
You've met a great guy that you really like and he's asked you out for another date. Things are looking great until you mention your cousin's wedding that's taking place in six months. Now he won't even commit to a third date and you're wondering what happened. What happened was you were pushing him to make future plans with you. Even if that wasn't your intention, just the mention of an event that requires a date so far in advance is enough to scare off any man. Avoid bringing up things that are happening in the future to avoid scaring off a man you like.

You are too aggressive
Playing hard to get isn't a bad thing. You don't need to ignore a man completely and make him spend all his time chasing you, but men do enjoy a little chase. Instead of calling him and texting him numerous times a day, let him to the calling. Don't reply to his texts right away though. Wait a while and you'll have him intrigued about your life. If you are too aggressive, for example asking him out on all the dates or deciding where you'll go, he might be put off by this.

You like the attention of all men
If you are needy for men's attention, even when you have a boyfriend, this can cause major problems in a relationship. A man doesn't want his girlfriend trying to attract the attention of other men. A boyfriend doesn't want to see you flirt with other men or spend your time in communication with them and attempting to make them fall for you.

If you exhibit any of the above behaviours, you might understand now why you're still single. Hopefully with the help of this article you can begin to change your behaviours so that instead of scaring men away, you attract the man of your dreams


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G000dbuddy 34M  
1243 posts
11/6/2021 12:49 am

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Good real time tips. I can personally attest to the 4 reasons above.
Unrealistic expectations IS a major Divorce driver as well as a person unable to connect with a potential candidate. I hope everyone reads this blog

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1243 posts
11/6/2021 12:50 am

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One reason a person may still be single for years on end...or forever, is because they are an a**hole. Having an attitude towards others and being rude to people is a surefire way to scare people away. Check your own behavior! Want to remain single? Be a jerk. Simple.

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G000dbuddy 34M  
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11/7/2021 10:28 pm

First impressions are very important, because we judge people almost instantly. It is vital that the first impression you give is a good one. You should dress to look modern and stylish, and not try to compete with teenagers or women in their early twenties. To look attractive you need to feel self confident, so follow these tips and you will be sure to attract a man.

Stand in front of a full-length mirror and look at yourself from head to toe. Is your haircut an old-fashioned style? Are you wearing the same make-up you wore in your twenties? Do you need a manicure or pedicure? Are you unhappy with your body shape? If the answer to any of these questions is 'yes' do not despair, you can remedy all of these situations and you will look stunning.

Invest in a Modern Hairstyle
If you have been attending the same hairdressing salon for years, consider making an appointment with a new hairstylist. A new hairstylist will be more ready to modernise your style, because she will not have preconceived ideas of how you should look. Before you arrange to see a hairstylist, browse through magazines for inspiration and pay particular attention to the hairstyles of attractive women in your own age group.

A new hair color can look wonderful. Be subtle with your color change, so that your hair coloring looks natural and suits your skin toning. Foils or streaks will blend in with your own natural color and will hide grey hair more effectively.

Change your Make-up
Now that you have a lovely new hairstyle and color, it is time to purchase new make-up. When you visit the cosmetics counter, ask the assistant for advice before choosing your new make-up. Many department stores have samples of various cosmetics that you can try before you buy. You may be surprised at the difference a slightly lighter or darker shade of foundation, powder, lipstick and eye shadow can make to your overall appearance.

You may wish to have your face made-up by a beauty therapist. This is not an indulgence, because if you watch her carefully you will be able to copy her techniques, when you are applying your own cosmetics.

Have a Manicure and Pedicure
Your hands are always on display and if you are planning to wear sandals or open-toe shoes, so are your toes. Nicely shaped and polished nails are attractive to men. There is no need to match the color of your fingernails with your toenails. Toenails look lovely painted in a dark shade of red, whereas you may prefer a more natural look for your fingernails


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G000dbuddy 34M  
1243 posts
11/7/2021 10:31 pm

Shop for clothes in a different store to the one where you have been shopping. If you shop in a large department store, try looking in a different section than the one where you usually choose your clothes. Be open to trying on clothes that look different from those you normally wear. You may look beautiful in a style that differs from your usual type, so be daring and take a risk.

Find an assistant in your own age group, and preferably with a similar body shape to you, and ask her for advice. Sales assistants have an up-to-date knowledge of what is fashionable, and a good sales assistant will be able to help you choose the right garments for your shape, size, and age.

Now all you have to do is enjoy yourself when you are out. Looking your best and feeling pretty will give you confidence. A happy self-confident person always looks attractive. Surprise your male friends, when they see the new you. Well groomed, and beautifully clothed, you will look stunning, and very attractive to men


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G000dbuddy 34M  
1243 posts
11/8/2021 3:10 am

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Have a shower before you go out clean is always the best look. Its amazing how many people men and women who are scruffy their hair is dirty their clothes are scruffy. Some go all out hair pedicure for a date special event then they are complete scruff the next day. This applies to men and women . Its about self respect .

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1243 posts
11/8/2021 3:11 am

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It is quite evident , you of the staff , are of the younger generation. "Got to be in style" . Do you not recognize it is the people who make and sell the fashions that all the trendies have to have, is why they are in business. Look at the hair, disgusting long stringy unkempt tresses that look fine on grizzly bear. Most of you "youngsters" fail to recognize how a lady can look so much more attractive with a neat hair style rather than looking like someone wearing a mop on their head. As to clothing , most is disgusting. Number one is , where is the waist ? It is hanging down around their butt , in that case, I wonder how many women realize that that style only goes to emphasize how gross their posterior is. Jeans
are a very popular wear , and I agree they are practical, but with the current style it is hardly flattering when the person behind them is exposed to the cleavage of their rear end. Tailored jeans are attractive, but with todays attitude of
"who cares", it certainly defines whether she is a lady or just a woman. Ah, for the good ol' ways. studecar

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1243 posts
11/8/2021 3:12 am

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The best dress a woman can wear is a smile. We men are simple like that, yet women want to make it so complicated. Granted, you do look very good when you through the handbook of dress and makeup codes, but....back to the start of this paragraph.

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1243 posts
11/8/2021 3:13 am

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Im agree , but not for attracting man !
Please look at the positive angle of this article
I think all woman over 40s and nearly 50s like me
wants to look different, it is time to spoil ourself
looking fresh, younger, beautiful and fabulous!
No need expensive treatment or expensive outlook
Just make something different, changing style
like grow longer hair or trim shorts, dyed with different colours
More body exercise and reduce the extra weight will
helping boost our confidence
Dare to wear bright colours for clothes,
Healthy life style and live with a positive mind and atitude.
Sure this will bring a fresh change to an old person

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1243 posts
11/8/2021 3:14 am

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how to attract a man -? are you kidding ! we do'nt care what you wear - most guys won't go up to girls anymore for simple reasons -like ,"is she single ?i do'nt want to hit on a woman that is "taken". i think that if a woman is slightly interested in a man than she should just go up to him & say "hi ! are you single-?(if the guy says yes i'm single- then the woman should say)-"well not any more!!!" -lol this dateing stuff seems to get caught up in "stero-types" to the point of stagnation - we are "loveing" beings (even those that mis-bahave) we men love a good sense of humour & we love you women from head to toe - like heaven on earth !!!!

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1243 posts
11/8/2021 3:16 am

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There are so many Books on this subject , How to dress to impress a man... How to get a man to fall in love with you... amazingly, all these books in the 'Self help' sections of Book Shops... I notice there are never any about how a man should dress to impress, or attract a woman.. simple because men wouldnot buy them.

I sadly agree with the blogger who stated that women tend to [some of the more superficial of the species] dress to impress other women.

Men see eyes, they see sex appeal, a nice a**, sorry it's the truth ! They can rarely tell a faux leather handbag from a very expensive one, if the woman is dressed nicely.

I am well above the age of going to a beauty consultant, simply because, fashion doesnot cater for people of my age.. truth !! If they do, it is usually very dowdly and maternity type tops over nasty looking trousers.

I am lucky in that I have a young face for my age and not a wrinkle but, I have developed bad inflammatory arthritis [getting treatment, no cure].... so having had great legs, I now have swollen legs and feet and ankles and it is so embarrassing... hence, lovely toes painted red are a thing of the past ! ditto the gorgeous shoes I used to wear... I have to wear black tights in winter, with bootees, and I have a pretty good figure, except for this...

I really havenot found men bothered by this as they really go for personality, a happy face, a person who likes men, who has interests, and all this about going and having highlights in the hair is nonsense, it is very very expensive... not all women have that type of money to visit beauty parlours and have treatment....

It is about what you eat, that effects the skin. I use the best moisturizer I can afford. but I colour my own hair and cover the greys... I am a sensual woman and get hit on quite alot, I am a simple dresser and like to wear unusual earrings and neckpieces, but that is for me, as is perfume. Not for men.
hug When you are naturally a sexy, happy woman, and love men, they can sense that immediately and the shade of lipstick you wear is of little interest as they just want to kiss it off you ,... etc., etc

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1243 posts
11/8/2021 3:18 am

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I don't agree with you at all I'm 48 years. Looking from the out side... a good body, sexy cloths, make up to look good.....Im more impressed when I meet a person dressed for them self and there comfort zone....

As I would like to get to now the person deep with in.....

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1243 posts
11/8/2021 3:19 am

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I guess each to there own, however I'm not going to dress to impress anyone except me, if I have to dress or behave a certain way then he's not the one for me. I have my own style it's what makes me .....me!

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1243 posts
11/8/2021 3:21 am

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I know this was a while ago , so any way, quite frankly I would rather be in my Garb German style , and I do travel over sea,s dressed quite differently, more in keeping with my history. and how I like those clothes,

In many ways because of my facial features those clothes make a big difference in my look I'm not pretty so if I try to be and have more frilly styles I look silly and stupid, so doing all that has been said is okay for some one who has those looks to compliment them selfs I just find I'm just myself and as we say what you see will be what you get no frills just a basic hard working woman

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1243 posts
11/8/2021 3:23 am

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Where is the article that advises men over 40 how to dress and attract women,and why is this double standard mentality even entertained? You should see some of the men who approach me. Here I am running with my dog,working out at a gym,counting calories,wearing the latest hair styles,keeping my nails polished,wearing perfume,and can even rock 5 inch heels at my age,and what do I get? Men in wrinkled,Fred Flintstones' looking jeans that ride up to their necks,breast as big as mine,guts that obscure their genitals,beards that aren't groomed, and nasal hair that is not only gray but protrudes over their lips. Some are out and out dirty looking.These men approach me because I am the opposite of themselves in grooming and style choices. Yet,in their narcissism,they don't seem to grasp that attraction must be mutual.
Therefore,they need to care about their appearance,and many don't.

I'm just saying that some men need assistance with how to attract the opposite sex, too

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1243 posts
11/8/2021 9:50 pm

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I can tell you, from a male perspective that I appreciate it when a women goes to the trouble of making her self look nice, regardless of age, without becoming convoluted and obsessed about it. Also different circumstances/situations often demand their own kind of dress code, not to say that a women shouldn't add her own unique touches to this

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1243 posts
11/8/2021 9:51 pm

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I agree with this article. We update our vehicles, why not our bodies? Women look much older than they need to because they refuse to do something so simple as change their outdated 60's or 70's hair-do! People think I am much younger than I am because I do NOT 'dress my age.'
I think updating one's appearance --- male OR female -- is a small sacrifice if it will attract a mate.

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1243 posts
11/8/2021 9:52 pm

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Being well over sixty, I think everyone should dress to how they feel & what is comfortable, but more importantly, clothes that are suitable for your age group. They don't have to be dowdy or ultra expensive, buy a lot of mix & match combinations. Well fitting clothing that don't date is the best way to start, you can always dress them up with accessories. You can look well dressed & smart on a budget, but make sure make up is not cheap & nasty as well & don't overdo it. Clean skin to start with & moisturizer is a must, morning & night, every morning & night. You must take care of your skin if you want to look fresh & chic. Skin care is much more important than the make up you put on it

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1243 posts
11/8/2021 9:57 pm

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I always dress to please myself, and if a man doesn't like my style then that's his problem! I don't have money to buy new clothes, get pedicures and manicures etc etc etc. It's just me...what you see is what you get! Sometimes I think it would be nice to be able to go out and buy some nice clothes.....clothes that would suit my personality, but then when it comes down to it, it's surely our personality that is the most important thing, not our clothes and nail colour!

I have, just out of curiosity, watched some of those Gok Wan programs where he supposedly makes women feel better about themselves. I can understand where he is coming from, but at the end of the day, it is all artificial, and often very impractical! I live in the countryside, and am very much an outdoor person...how could I waddle around all day in high heels with unsuitable clothes on, and afraid to get a hair out of place! Looking glamourous is ok for special occasions, but for normal days, it's just silly! (just my humble opinion of course roll eyes)

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1243 posts
11/8/2021 9:58 pm

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Sorry!!! Don't agree with most of the contents of this article. Why should anyone assume that women over 40 need a change of hairdresser, style etc. ?

I dress how I like. I wouldn't be seen dead in most of the stuff women over 50 are supposed to wear.

I have a youthful general appearance even when naked. Don't understand why I should look like lamb dressed as mutton because my age doesn't match my body type appearance.

Sod the rules and what society thinks!! BTW I hace a 26 year old daughter and we often swap clothes and shoes. Although there are some things of hers that are beyond my borrowing and things of mine she wouldn't be seen dead in!

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1243 posts
11/8/2021 10:00 pm

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well I am not over forty but I am over fifty, and I have gone through a dress change by myself, I always wore pants and tops , but have gone to long modern hippy kind skirts and tops I find they are comfortable and dressy, and look smart I have long blond hair and have been complimented on my new kind of look, I feel it is up to the person them self to what they feel they like and are comfortable in, and also I would never through I would be seen in a skirt, but our taste change as we get older

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1243 posts
11/8/2021 10:02 pm

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In my experience the problems or sucesses of how women dress, regardless of their age, is more to do with other women. Other women are much more likely to make a woman feel unattractive by all the means available to signal to each other about what looks good,fits right, or shows off the best features.
Most women fully realise that men are not very aware of fashion, styles, colour matching and contrast. Hell every woman at one time or another wishes that her man could see her and tell her he does.
For any of you that look at 'GOK' on tv, the real basis for dressing well is to have that powerfull and confident self image.Every one of his girls come alive with his urgings to see themselves as attractive. They all focus on what they dont like, boobs,or bums.After he helps them see the positive the problem areas disappear

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1243 posts
11/8/2021 10:04 pm

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This article might appeal to some really lost woman who loved under a rock for the past 20 years..- but hey! Either you really care about how you look and by at the age of 40 you will know what you to do, or you really should have figured out how to feel good about yourself no matter what you are wearing!!

Self confidence is the sexiest and most attractive accessory, always!

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1243 posts
11/8/2021 10:05 pm

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Good article !

Often spoken: men is the predator and women the pray.

Not true !

In fact is on the other way around. Women developed charming technics that cannot be compared with any men's technics.

All these technics are useful to build a charming network...
Like a spider, you girls can simply nail a man that easy.
So this is a good lead to change your atitude

Stop being the pray and become the predator

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1243 posts
11/8/2021 10:06 pm

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Ladies: do you really lack confidence in yourself as much as to break your back dressing up just for him?
Most men care little about themselves and have unrealistic expectations of women. As for women: are you turning into discomfort slaves so just to satisfy men?

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1243 posts
11/8/2021 10:08 pm

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OK, so let's try and stretch and paint and squeeze ourselves, ladies, into most "sexy" attractive gear. Paste our faces and limp on enormous heels. In a meantime HE will turn up smelling of yesterdays beer, clothes that have been washed last april, worn off trainers, baseball cap and a stubble. He will look at your pathetic self, scratch his beer gut, burp and say: not sexy enough honey...Then he (early 50's) will stagger to his computer and e-mail 20 year old...
Dear ladies stop being daft, dress what you feel comfortable and nice for you. Sod the "He".

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1243 posts
11/9/2021 1:14 am

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Women of all ages should wear what makes them feel good, there are no rules anymore, thank God. Telling women over 40 to dress in a certain way is like saying they are not attractive any more ??? \or that the cushion has sagged scold If its a fact join weight watchers and the gym, meet some nice people and date them.

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1243 posts
11/9/2021 1:15 am

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Buy classic and age appropriate. Pay attention to fit. It's one thing to show curves or a hint of cleavage, another to don those stretchy lycra things that shape the curves you want and too many of the curves you don't. Buy classic and good quality. That means a basic wardrobe that wears well, and lasts longer without going out of style. Trends can be added with less expensive accessories (jewelry, belts, scarves, etc). Invest in good undergarments that counteract gravity. I'm lucky that I sew, so hemming, subtle alterations etc are fairly quick and easy. Just because we're over 40 doesn't mean we can't look fabulous!

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1243 posts
11/9/2021 1:18 am

Stop being overly available
If you are always available to someone, they may begin to take you for granted or not find you as exciting as they once did. Being scarce makes you more valuable in someone else's eyes. If you're always around, this implies that you don't have much else going on. If you find that you're always available on a moment's notice to reply to a text or accept a date, learn to keep yourself busy in other ways. Stop bending over backward to fit into their life. If you're not available at someone else's convenience, they will begin to see you as a more interesting person. It's human nature.. not game playing.


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G000dbuddy 34M  
1243 posts
11/9/2021 1:19 am

Be unpredictable and mysterious
If someone knows exactly what you're doing and when you're doing it, their interest in you will begin to wane. To avoid this, don't divulge everything you're doing and exactly when you're doing it. You might like the person you're dating a lot and want to keep them up to date, but this will remove all mystery from your life. Vary the time that it takes you to answer texts. If someone asks you to go for coffee, decline saying you're busy at their suggested time. Don't tell them exactly what you're doing, but suggest another time to meet. Let people wonder about you. This is a good way to keep them interested and coming back for more


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G000dbuddy 34M  
1243 posts
11/9/2021 1:21 am

Look your best
If you begin to slack off and stop caring about your appearance, others may lose interest in you. This isn't because looks matter, but because when you stop taking care of yourself, you appear to not care about yourself anymore. You may be seen as lazy and that's not attractive. You don't have to wear expensive clothes to look good. You should wear what you feel good in. When you feel good, you are confident and that's attractive. Looking your best and caring about yourself also means taking care of your body. When people see how much pride you take in yourself, they will be more interested in spending time with you.

Being interesting isn't about being someone you're not. It's about putting your best self out there for others to see


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G000dbuddy 34M  
1243 posts
11/9/2021 2:46 am

Do soulmates really exist? Do people have more than one? Is it possible to find yours? How do you know if someone is your soulmate? These might be relevant questions to ask when discussing love, romance, and relationships, but they certainly are not easy ones to answer.. and often controversial. In fact, personal beliefs will dictate the way that people answer these and similar questions.

The universal laws of attraction put into play the people who will be attracted to each other. Do these laws really exist? Surely they do, they always have, and they always will. Think about it. Have you ever made a statement about a certain type of person, an individual with specific personality traits, being attracted to you or vice versa? In fact, people are attracted to each other for a wide assortment of reasons.

The individual who is a good listener attracts those who need to talk almost as much as the good listener needs to listen. The individual who is a good leader attracts those who need to follow. Intellectuals attract other intellectuals; athletes attract athletes; and so on down the line until everyone is attracting someone.

Did you really think that people congregate together simply because of proximity, or some other random factor? People who have similar interests or abilities are attracted to each other. People are attracted to specific body types, hair coloring, and more. In fact, it isn't necessarily true that people are attracted to the whole person, but rather, they are attracted to a specific aspect of the individual.

If an individual is attracted to someone physically, when does it begin to become an emotional attraction? Or is it on an emotional level before you even know it. If you begin to chase the individual who has peaked your interest, is that the factor that maintains the attraction or is it simply the factor that enhances the attraction? Whatever it is, the theory behind soulmates may be a valid one.


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G000dbuddy 34M  
1243 posts
11/9/2021 5:37 pm

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As this article rightly points out, soul mate is based on one being attracted to a specific aspect of a person. When you see a person, you are attracted to that person because of a trait in the person you find irresistable. And you find yourself wanting to be with that person. But is that falling in love? Or is that true love? The answers are no. But you can say it is a step in getting to know the person. I say soul mate theory is not being in true love. Because once that 'trait' of the theory (attraction) is removed, then begins the problem of hostility, hostile seperation, etc.

Like as I said, soul mate theory is based on a feeling of natural 'affinity' which can be a step in getting to know someone. As this article again rightly pointed out, one cannot be attracted to the whole person, but rather to a specific aspect of an individual. Hence falling in love and being in true love is LEARNING TO SEE THE IMPERFECTION IN A PERSON PERFECTLY.

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1243 posts
11/9/2021 5:38 pm

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Yes, soul mate makes someone part of a person; love him/her as yourself and to share all that a person can have and makes him/her feel part of each other and feel oneness.
I hope to meet one in the near future to literally experience what truly a soul mate is.

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1243 posts
11/9/2021 5:39 pm

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I have to say they do exist because I have found mine. You know when they get your off humor jokes and you get theirs almost like an insider or person you have known for years. When your likes and dislikes are just about the same. About the same taste in everything from music, to romance, to how you view people and the world. More importantly, how you view treating each other. This wonderful woman I met, we fit like a hand and glove. I still pinch myself at the thought we found each other. It is like God made us from the same cloth and split it in half. It is so easy being with this woman and I am now madly and deeply in love. Only reason I answered this is because I have forgot to cancel this and they sent me an email and I read this article because I have found my soul mate. With that being said, I wish all of you good luck and I pray you all find the love of my life like I did.

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1243 posts
11/9/2021 10:52 pm

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You say people who are alike are attracted to one another. I have been approched by all differnt types and ages. I thought when I joined this site I would end up with a pen pal or two. It has been overwhelming, so many men looking for thier soul mate. You will never know until you are face to face. There's got to be butterflies and thats that

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1243 posts
11/9/2021 10:52 pm

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been on here since early september no they dont exsist, most are superficial to into themselves, they date jerks while us nice guys dont get noticed, ive talked to almost everyone on here there flakes who either push u away or keep distant hardly write, move on yo

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1243 posts
11/9/2021 10:54 pm

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I like Soulmate Topics,and making comments in them, but quite awhile ago, i was standing in a grocery store, getting bored waiting to pay for my groceries, so i started to go thru, the little mini magazines, and found a soulmate mini mag, so i bought it, and this is what it said: there's 3 different kinds of soulmates, there's The mentor Soulmate,somebody that comes into your life, and helps you. second soulmates is the Twins Soulmates, somebody that comes into your life, thats going thru the exact same things as you are. the third one is, The Childhood Sweethearts Soulmates, somebody that you knew all of your life, and went to school together, grew up knowing each other, than fell in love, get married, and grow old together. but i think i met one of my soulmates, me n him are the twins soulmates, everything that happens to me, happened to him to, couple of years ago, my bestfriend died, than a couple of days later, his bestfriend dies to, so were both very sad that time, i know me and him arent together anymore, but i still hear about him and have dreams of him yet, maybe he will come back to me, i dont know yet

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1243 posts
11/9/2021 10:55 pm

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'So, girls: drop your self-defeating delusions.
And guys: man the fcuk up, and go talk to some girls.'

brilliant haiqu, say it like it is, if he kisses you, holds you and smells good to you, the rest is easy.. there has to be loads of matches for each of us or we'd be extinct. (it's piqued, peak is like a mountain peak which is a noun).

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1243 posts
11/9/2021 10:56 pm

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Yes I quite agree, and the idea that our s*xual behaiviour has moral implications is absurd. I think to a degree we are conditioned to be emmotionally vulnerable in order that we are easier to manipulate.
I really believe everything starts and ends with ones self, all it takes is a little responsability.
just remember what goes around comes around and don't be afraid to make up your own rules.

cheers

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1243 posts
11/9/2021 11:56 pm

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How about deleting all the external reasons why you can't find someone and going with what YOU think is right, rather than falling for the latest fad promoted by the social engineers and trendmongers. Anyone who would believe this claptrap isn't spiritually advanced enough to know what true spiritual advancement is anyhow, so they have little chance of finding their "soulmate" even if such does exist.

The only reason any guy would "admit" to believing this stuff is that he's so pu**y-whipped he thinks the only way he can find someone to love is to believe what women want him to believe.

So, girls: drop your self-defeating delusions.
And guys: man the fcuk up, and go talk to some girls.

The longer we permit such delusions to run rampant, the nuttier the society becomes. Honestly, you can be a match for anyone if you look at it the right way, and all that stops you getting together with them is prejudices and personal preferences. Every person I ever met has SOME saving graces and positive features.

The universal law of attraction is actually totally different to that promoted in "The Secret". Opposites attract, that's the reality. When you find someone who has holes in their head that match the rocks in yours, it will seem like magic. Thinking positively is a good idea generally, but if you think that will make someone fantastic magically appear, you're going to have a long and lonely wait.

This article is written to generate comment and keep us here jabbering endlessly, not to answer any deep question or lead us to happiness. Like the average women's magazine journalist the author glosses over the real issues, instead relying on reflexive logic and an abundance of pointless questions in order to stimulate chatter.

Well, the end product of chatter is having chattered. It doesn't take a genius to figure out that nothing in this article has any bearing on finding the path to a fulfilling relationship. It's merely amatuer psychology, and poorly done psychology at that.

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1243 posts
11/9/2021 11:58 pm

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Yes Soulmates are real. Is there only one for each us? How much of a cruel trick on man kind that would be by God. What happens if your born in the wrong time from each other woopsi?? Better luck next time? I believe there is more than one.

Does true love really exist, yes it does, been there done that. It is easy to fall in love but it hard to maintain it. When your shopping for a new car, and you finally find the one the one you want, you know because you know because you know ...........thats the car you want. But if you fail to do the maintenance, it will stop running, no matter how good a car it is. Love is the same way, you stop the maintenance......it will quit running. Its to easy now days to throw our hands up and say, lets get a divorce, or let out minds roam to someone else. When you get married, if you have the mind set on both parties, that we ARE going to make this work and be happy, IT CAN HAPPEN. Did the death do us part thing.

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1243 posts
11/9/2021 11:59 pm

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It was originally believed that soulmates are created when the creator takes a soul and splits it into two as it is caste into human form. Each half is supposed to learn the life lessons at their own pace. When the two halves sometimes cross paths during various lifetimes, they have a cosmic powerful bond because they really are of the same soul. They complete each other. They are often very much alike, and the intensity of the connection is too much for a mere human with emotions and issues to handle, so they painfully end up parting ways. When they both finish their lessons, they are both reunited in heaven and come together as a beautiful representation of love and unity. This is also known as your twin flame. Only one person is the other half of your soul.

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1243 posts
11/11/2021 12:45 am

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I truly believe in the existence of soulmates. The last two paragraphs of your article are right on the nose.

"It isn't necessarily true that people are attracted to the whole person, but rather, they are attracted to a specific aspect of the individual."

I believe this to be correct, especially of soulmates because the aspect in question is a key factor to the individuals spiritual growth and becomes a life lesson for both. The soulmate recognises it, but the individual does not. The soulmate must then try to bring it to the other's attention, make them aware of it so it can then be utilized to the benefit of the individual and his life purpose. The utilization of this aspect also benefits and fulfills the life purpose of the soulmate and the two then form a partnership, but not necessarily a marriage.

This "bringing to awareness" stage can be a most challenging, difficult and painful experience to both parties. On the surface it seems almost cruel. a "tough love" which, in the long run, is the highest form of love in the universe.

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1243 posts
11/11/2021 12:50 am

Mr. Right still exists
To have that, both need to be emotionally stable, emotionally mature, have a high level of emotional IQ, be able to have actual conversations and deal with issues with achieving compromises and adjusting.

Big decisions must be made together and above all both must exercise patience and learn to grow together and enrich each other's lives. There is no short cut to what you desire, it is a lifetime of work, which both have to do and it helps both like each other.

People today simply do not have patience for something like that, nor do they even understand that falling in love is biochemical reaction. Loving each other, that is a choice. Because, that means you accept each other quirks and bad days and everything else that comes your way and you deal with it together


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G000dbuddy 34M  
1243 posts
11/11/2021 12:52 am

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Sadly that kind of oive is a thing of the past . Now it's instant s*xual gratification and if shes not up to porn star levels of pending him then suret theres another one to try . Yes im cynical but its reality

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1243 posts
11/11/2021 12:53 am

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First thing to look for is a man who respects and honors the way his grandparents did things. He must also have similar values. Today's man is controlled by social media, the media, their immediate environment, etc. It is very hard for men in 2020 to relate back to times when unity was the key. In America social distancing has divided people. Some are so afraid of being infected by some virus or plague that relationships are the last thing on their minds. I can only say that true love is its soul's counterpart in another. Its so much that can be said about this bit there isn't much room. Love will find away

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1243 posts
11/11/2021 12:54 am

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In the world it rough and seem impossible to find a decent mature single lady who serious about committing to marriage I've been single for four years now I'm just loosing my mind trying to meet a woman who serious about life

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1243 posts
11/11/2021 12:55 am

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waooooooo!!!
is unfortunate for yeah loll!!,but take it easy ok.
the right one will come,at the right time

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1243 posts
11/11/2021 12:56 am

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In the world, each and every one want to have with him that special person to love. Everyone wants to be someone special someone. Everyone wants to represent something in the eyes of someone or everyone. Love and be not suffering. Agree to accept love and letting go. And free love. And free love. If you want to keep your love, you must let him go.
You have learned, she learned, all we are responsible for your choices
Such is life, life is movement

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1243 posts
11/12/2021 5:50 pm

Dating gets to be expensive when you constantly spend money on dinner and a movie. Your date may welcome the free meal and entertainment, but it's going to get frustrating in short order for you. Avoid giving away free food and entertainment by treating your date like an interview.

What To Do
Don't treat the date like a literal interview. In other words, don't pepper your date with questions in rapid-fire form. Rather, arrange the date so that you end up going somewhere quaint, but inexpensive - a coffee shop perhaps. Coffeehouses are great places to sit and talk. Make it clear that you'd like to meet and that you don't want to put any pressure on her by buying her dinner or lunch or anything like that. This way, she'll expect to pay for her own food and drinks.

Keep the date short. You don't need to drag the date on for hours. In fact, this could be a bad thing even if you're having a great time with her. By keeping the date short, you get to assess whether you want to see her again. A 30 minute date should give you enough information about her to know whether you want to see her again.

Don't think too far into the future. All you're looking for is that next date. If you only spend 30 minutes with her, then you haven't wasted much time if there's just no chemistry between the two of you. If there is chemistry, then you'll have something to look forward to on your next date.

By agreeing ahead of time that you're "going dutch," you save yourself money. If your date won't meet with you unless you're paying, then you've just saved yourself from a gold-digger.

Consideration
Before meeting with your potential date, have a firm idea of what you want from this person. It's always a good idea to keep a list (at home, of course) of what you want out of a relationship. Make a list of "essentials," "negotiables," and "deal-breakers." Ruthlessly analyze this list for a week or two to make sure that you have listed all of your desired personality traits, character traits, values, and other wants. Make sure that your deal-breakers are real deal-breakers and that your negotiables are really negotiable. This makes dating more of a "paint-by-numbers" thing.

You can gently, and casually "dig" for deal-breakers. When you find them, you know that the person is not for you regardless of other traits you might find appealing. It takes the frustration out of dating, and saves you a lot of time and money. Most people won't do this one simple thing, but it makes dating really, really easy and fun. Also, regardless of what happens, you win


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G000dbuddy 34M  
1243 posts
11/12/2021 5:51 pm

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Free dating sites save the person on money, but its also where most of the scammers head to, as they don't have to pay for their scamming.

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1243 posts
11/12/2021 5:53 pm

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I don't know about the author's experience with dating, but in general I believe that people are exchanging emails, or chat or do some Skyping before they meet eyeball to eyeball. In that way they already know each other to a certain extent, and with that comes the knowledge of preferences, needs and so on.
To me this article sounds more like a description of a second date after a speed dating where the two have never met before. Or maybe they met on a dating site and decided to meet the same afternoon. If so, you have to live somewhere near by, and that is not always how it is, just like one of the comments read above.
And expensive? If it just a meeting, it is a question of a cup of coffee and a chat, and that doesn't cost much. If it, however, is a question of first physical meeting after one has come to know each other, money shouldn't really be an object. And if we like each other, why should we NOT spend time together?
To me, the whole article sounds a bit strange.

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1243 posts
11/12/2021 5:53 pm

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Why time a date if things aren't going well there's a way out after making excuses, if its going well why not go with the flow?

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1243 posts
11/12/2021 5:54 pm

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Your advice works well for people who live near each other, but for people like me trying to find their soulmate on a different continent, should we reach the point of purchasing a plane ticket to meet the one we think is our soulmate, we're pretty much in a position where we think we've found him, so there is no 30-minute first date for us; hopefully our "first date" will last a lifetime..

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1243 posts
11/12/2021 5:55 pm

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If he's having a great time and I'm having a great time, then I see no reason to cut it off after approx 30 mins. If a date did that to me (and I'd like to hear the excuse for bailing if he's having a good time), then I can guarantee that there'd be no second date. Just m.o.

I could write a lot more on the issue of overanalyzing things or guidance for the socially inept, but I'd rather hear from people who have tried this advice and came out successfully at the end

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1243 posts
11/13/2021 12:05 am

If a couple has a great sex life but other aspects of the relationship are lacking, it probably won't last. If you are concerned that your relationship is based on sex-only, you will want to look at your relationship honestly and objectively. Learn to recognize the signs that indicate whether a relationship is based more on lust than love

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1243 posts
11/13/2021 12:09 am

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OK,
Sex is definitely the thing we all need , it's something that we share with someone that cares about you?

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1243 posts
11/13/2021 12:10 am

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I think sex is usually the driving force but if you have nothing in common apart from that things will get strained and the relationship will cool. As a women I feel I have to tempt my lover in all sorts of ways but we would have to have similar outlooks on life.

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1243 posts
11/13/2021 12:11 am

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I think if you really love someone you respect them and what ever they want ..You and that partner work it out together..Love and trust is important...I do know that s*x is a good thing when two people act on it and people abuse it too...Like that is the only thing they want from me or they are using me to get what they want and then they leave me for someone else and get the same thing from them...Usually people wait till they are married..

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1243 posts
11/13/2021 12:12 am

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I've not got a issue in just having a clean s*xual lifestyle i just take it when people ask for it

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1243 posts
11/13/2021 12:13 am

Other comments 5
sex is the very important ..no doubt .
But faith is the very very important in every relation

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1243 posts
11/13/2021 12:14 am

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relationships are hard work, if you want it to last. sex is important, but should not be the only thing on one's mind. i like a combination of both, great sex, and intimacy.

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1243 posts
11/13/2021 12:16 am

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Lust dies but love is forever.
50-50% ----------------
OH BOY! this relationship stuff seems complicated.are you saying to much of a good thing can be bad?

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1243 posts
11/13/2021 8:06 am

Finding the right man can be difficult and the world of dating can be a confusing and competitive play ground. Sometimes it's hard to tell what a man is thinking. Getting your hopes up after a few dates can lead to a crushing disappointment later. So, what does he really think about you? Don't waste your time waiting on a guy who is just stringing you along. Here are 10 tips to help you see if a guy is not taking your seriously

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1243 posts
11/13/2021 8:08 am

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He doesn't call
You have had a date and all seemed to go well. Trouble is, he didn't call. You are constantly checking your cell but there are no missed calls, no unnoticed texts. If he hasn't called, chances are he isn't thinking about you. Don't waste your time thinking about him.

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1243 posts
11/13/2021 8:10 am

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Your dates are lame.
He takes you to the same restaurant every time or just wants to watch a movie on the couch and feel you up. If his dates show no hint of planning, then he obviously doesn't care about impressing you. When a man is attracted to a woman he wants to impress her. If your dates are noticably unimpressive, that's a hint he doesn't feel the need to please you. Toss this lame larry to the curb.

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1243 posts
11/13/2021 8:11 am

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He is all talk.
When you're together he talks about all the great places you could go together. He may even mention you meeting his family. Unfortunately, his family is always out of town and he is too busy with work to take you anywhere. It can even be as small as him saying he will call you at 8:00 and not bothering until 11:00, if he calls at all. Face it, you aren't his priority. Drop this big talker and look for a man of action

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1243 posts
11/13/2021 8:12 am

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He is looking for someone else.
He contacts his ex girlfriends, messages other girls when you are on a date, has coffee with girls he just met. Long story short, men have friends who are girls, but if they are interested in one girl they won't jeopardize that realtionship by hanging out with randoms. Ditch this flirty philanderer and find a man who would rather spend time with you.

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1243 posts
11/13/2021 8:16 am

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He's secertive.
His phone and computer are locked up like fort knox. He freaks when you go near his phone or glance at his computer screen. He's obviously hiding something. It doesn't really matter what he is hiding, just that he isn't being honest with you. If a guy is hiding something, it can't be anything good. Trust is the most essential part of any relationship. If you can't trust him, make it clear you just aren't into untrustworthy guys and move on.

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1243 posts
11/13/2021 10:22 pm

Other comments 6
He tells you he doesn't want a relationship.
So many women brush off this statement. If he tells you he doesn't want a relationship, what he means is, he doesn't want a relationship with you. When a man finds someone he connects with, nothing will stop him from being with that person. Find a man who has no qualms about making you his girlfriend instead of playing the waiting game with Mr. wishy washy.

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1243 posts
11/13/2021 10:24 pm

Other comments 7
He never invites you to his place or never goes to yours.
A guy who likes you will be willing to go anywhere to be with you. Even if this means it takes a little longer to get to work in the morning, he'll do it because he likes you. However, If he never wants to take you to his place, consider he doesn't want you to know where he lives or maybe just doesn't want you to get too comfortable at his place. A player won't want just any woman dropping by his place, especially if he is seeing multiple ladies.

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1243 posts
11/13/2021 10:25 pm

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He disappears.
He disappears for long periods of time, blocks you on facebook, avoids places you hang out. He clearly is not interested. If he didn't give you a reason for this sudden disappearance, he obviously doesn't care about your feelings. Let houdini do his disappearing act and find someone of substance.

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1243 posts
11/13/2021 10:26 pm

Other comments 9
He talks about your friends too much.
He has met a few of your friends and he makes it known how attractive or fun they are. He asks which ones are single and seems unconcerned that his interest is hurting your feelings. Clearly, he isn't your number one fan and he should be

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1243 posts
11/13/2021 10:28 pm

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You are paying for everything.
Sure he likes a good movie with you and is up for a nice dinner, but you are the one paying. You are going broke trying to keep a guy who can't open his wallet for you once in awhile. This guy is living it up on your dime and not offering anything in return.
A real man doesn't need a sugar mama.


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G000dbuddy 34M  
1243 posts
11/13/2021 10:30 pm

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If he's not interested, it's best to find out early. If he doesn't call, or calls someone else, it's obvious you're not on his mind like you should be. If he talks all about himself, but never about you and he doesn't put any thought into your dates, he just doesn't care. Maybe he seems great but he has a million secrets and he straight up says he doesn't want a relationship, he is flat out telling you he is not interested. All these tips and more suggest he doesn't take you seriously and it's time to move on. A fun loving filly like you deserves a man who can't take his eyes off you. Use these tips, get out and meet a real man

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1243 posts
11/14/2021 12:06 am

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Most of this is nonsense. So much so I quit reading. Let's look at a few by number:

1. Nothing is mentioned her calling him. What if, in their parting words, she said, "I'll call you", and so he's waiting for that call? This is a stupid premise. Similarly, what if work just had a major breakdown, or similar, and everybody's doing over-time (some companies operate in this mode all the time, been there done that) and he is just too busy, even though he's thinking of her constantly? Yes, there are people that just walk away (women on here do it 90% of the time, in my experience, but many are scammers, so I don't judge). But it isn't a "male" trait. One call solves this fabricated dilemma.

2. If a woman is more concerned about being impressed, that just being with him, maybe he is making the point he doesn't want the distractions other places may entail. Maybe he doesn't want a 'gold-digger'. I knew a very pretty woman in the Navy. She started hinting to me she might be interested. But just a quick conversation with one guy put an end to that. She always demanded more and more expensive restaurants, etc. And she switched boyfriends often. It appears I was the only one that said no to her. So, ladies, if you want expensive, offer to pay the bill, or be more involved in the planning of the date. Or best yet, concentrate on the person you are with, not where you're going.

3. Same premise as 1. People have busy lives nowadays. Making blanket statements like this is just bigotry towards men. If a man spends a lot of time at work, it is for a reason. It is simple to find out whether he is "stalling" or truly busy. In some situations you can ask if you can swing by his work or house to drop something off, like info on the next date you are hoping for or planning. To make statements like this, assumes that something untoward is going on. Again, this is just bigotry against men, when superficial details such as these are spewed out.

4. This one actually makes a little sense. But it is a two-way street. In my experience, women are far more likely to be talking on the phone during a date, than men. I've been in many a restaurant with women answering their phones. Men do too, but not as much. But if they do, they are usually on it the entire time. Most of those that I recall appeared to be married, and I felt sorry for the wife.

5. If his computer and phone aren't locked up, some scammer is sure to get into them at some point, and it may expose your phone number publically as well. If his phone *isn't* locked up like Fort Knox, stay away from him and don't give him your phone number, unless you want to see it published on the world wide web.

Etc. The fact is, this whole thing isn't chock-full of common sense. Some that follow appear to be blatant, and obvious, but I didn't read past this point.

Yes, there are lots of men that are cads. I've heard them talking that they only will stay with any woman for 4 years, so they never end up in a common law marriage. So, at the four year mark, they get rid of their "girlfriend" of the past four year. This is evil behaviour. If you are dating a guy, and his last relationship lasted only 4 years, you might want to look into why.

Common sense is much more important than a list of "reasons" that may not even apply

For example, any guy in or near his 30's, should been able to find a wife by then. (There are exceptions to this. Total abstinence, for example.) But, it doesn't take much to find out, if he's the slightest bit honest, why he hasn't married. Usually, he can get what he wants without getting married. No marriage, no messy divorce. He gets to keep all his money. No support payments. Many men see this as a way of life. Don't "put out" for these creeps. Women who do are the ones that help create them. And if he asks for nude photos? Guess what. No Gentleman would ever do that!


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G000dbuddy replies on 11/14/2021 12:09 am:
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Read the signs, Ladies! Every one of these is true. Don't put up with being an option!

G000dbuddy replies on 11/14/2021 12:10 am:
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no. 5 is ok if he is a business man, nobody has to know how his business is going

but all other is true

G000dbuddy 34M  
1243 posts
11/14/2021 12:10 am

Other comments 15
WOW, all is true!

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1243 posts
11/14/2021 12:12 am

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If a Man says he is focused on getting sober , better lifestyle, no casual sex. Better friends? They won't call ya again probably

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1243 posts
11/14/2021 12:12 am

Other comments 17
Ladies must be aware of such wishy thinky man:

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1243 posts
11/14/2021 12:13 am

Other comments 18
So true...Good tips. No.1 is really at the top of the list. If he doesn't call...don't expect much.

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1243 posts
11/14/2021 12:15 am

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Thanks for the 10 tips how to find a real man,I mean may be he is not really perfect but a kind of man who doesn't have a millions of secrets.at. least a kind of man who can't take his eyes off me

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1243 posts
11/14/2021 12:16 am

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When a real man wants a particular woman, NOTHING will keep him away, not even a hurricane

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1243 posts
11/14/2021 12:17 am

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I suppose if you are not going in with eyes wide open, these are real issues... but... I have to say, being the upfront sort of woman that I am... the excessive use of the word Girl is a sure sign to women that men who use of the word girl are not going to be as respectful to women as you might wish. Not trying to be contrary just saying... girls are under the age of, what 12? Not the dating type. doh

Here's the generally "accepted" gender format:

girls - boys
gals - guys
women - men

Lots of peace and love to all of you

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1243 posts
11/14/2021 12:18 am

Other comments 22
Am I so naive? Unfortunatly yes - but hope not any more

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1243 posts
11/14/2021 12:19 am

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Thank you for the tips - and yes its all very tru - rather be alone and happy then with someone who is so not into you and stressful wine heres to love life and loss head banger

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1243 posts
11/14/2021 12:20 am

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So true ,, hope iam gonna find someone in real life instead wasting my time on long distance relationship. Apparently it just doesn't fit me

Apparently i just realised that after 3 times of broken up

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1243 posts
11/14/2021 11:30 pm

Pictures are worth a thousand words and a whole lot more when it comes to online dating. One third of American singles won't even respond to dating profiles that don't include a picture. Interestingly, only a very small percentage of online dating users concern themselves with hairstyle but 70% say that eyes are the sexiest facial feature

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1243 posts
11/14/2021 11:31 pm

In the opinions of singles in America, age may not be just a number. After a photo, a self-descriptive paragraph, and the potential date's geographical location, age is an important consideration when choosing a potential date.

It is agreed among American singles involved in online dating that money doesn't buy love. In fact, income rated just a half of a percentage point above eye color in the list of deal breakers. Drinking, political views, and religious affiliations were also listed as things that could cause you to be rejected but they are almost irrelevant. The two things that can cause you to go from possible soul mate to the recycle bin in just one click are your weight and having children. It appears that American singles would even tolerate a smoker before taking on an instant family.


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G000dbuddy 34M  
1243 posts
11/14/2021 11:32 pm

American singles chose the education level of potential dates to be of more importance than the individual's racial background. Only 9.4% of singles in America said they would decline a date based on the individual's level of education and 8.9% said that the person's skin color was any issue.

The best things in life are worth waiting for.. and 60% of American singles are willing to wait six months or more to find a compatible date using an online dating service


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G000dbuddy 34M  
1243 posts
11/14/2021 11:34 pm

It is a common belief that when it comes to love and online dating, men have a deep seated case of commitment phobia. However, research shows that single ladies are far more likely to be searching for a friendship type relationship and men say they are looking for a long term relationship. When it comes to marriage, 13% of men say they are looking for marriage and only 8% of single ladies are marriage minded.

Most online daters believe that using an online dating service helps to extend their social circle quite dramatically and an incredible 64% agree that online dating offers a much broader range of potential dates than traditional dating.


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G000dbuddy 34M  
1243 posts
11/14/2021 11:35 pm

"Don't knock it until you've tried it" is certainly the philosophy of those who have used online dating services. Most American singles believe that online dating involves privacy risks but 52% of those who have tried online dating believe that there is no dangerous activity involved at all. The majority of American singles report having good experiences with online dating.

What starts online doesn't necessarily stay online for very long. Most American singles will meet for a face-to-face date within a month after exchanging countless e-mail messages and at least ten telephone calls.

Nearly 7 million American singles have gone on dates with people they met through online dating sites and 17% of them have entered long term relationships or married their online dating partners after being introduced online.


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G000dbuddy 34M  
1243 posts
11/14/2021 11:41 pm

Other comments 1
I disagree about the eye colour,I think a woman's eyes can be an attracting facial feature but as to her eye colours ..not important.This is really a non-issue anyway if you happen to live in regions where 99% of the people have brown eyes.laugh
But this is an American article written for Americans.

As for..A picture is worth a thousand words..I agree.However,from experience I've learned that pictures can be deceiving and even web cams can omit the details you really want for a complete and accurate view of the person.My position is..The eye will never Lie.wink So those thousand words that the proverbial picture can be worth can be efficiently reduced to 4 or 5 words in a personal meeting.As in.."She's what I want!".."She's not what I want"!Known within moments.So don't waste your time.Meet ASAP.Do you really want to spend weeks in communication to be disappointed in a minute of reality? I suggest,NO.laugh

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G000dbuddy 34M  
1243 posts
11/14/2021 11:42 pm

Other comments 2
I quite agree with the information in the article. Being a single woman who is raising a young granddaughter it is hard to even read a profile where a guy does not say no way or something just as harsh about kids.

I am not going to hide the position I am in because I feel like things will start on a false note. Honesty is very important in a relationship, so why hide my granddaughter. When I am put to the side because I have her I feel as though I don't need them either. It will take longer to finally meet someone, but with everything out in the open I don't have to be concerned that I will be canned for not disclosing my circumstances.

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in a tough position... I am a single dad with custody of my daughter. I love her with all of my heart and she's my world, but because of "first impressions" I am reluctant to mention anything right away about her. Probably more confused. I know a good profile is a honest profile, but I won't mention my daughter until the ice is broken. And just as you say; "The two things that can cause you to go from possible soul mate to the recycle bin in just one click are your weight and having children. It appears that American singles would even tolerate a smoker before taking on an instant family." sadly is a reality with some people. I would like some feedback on this, because my most PROUD quaulity is raising my 13yr old girl myself and done so for 11 years!!peace I am pretty young at 31, but I would never seek a replacement for her mother. I am confused as hell...frustrated Any feedback would be awesome!

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you may be like that but that's no guarantee every guy is the same. No person is the same as another, regardless of gender. Hell, even identical twins arent always alike. FYI, I find eyes an important physical feature, and I may not be after marriage yet, but i have a mind that plans the future rather than living in the moment, which works for me. So Id be more certain of my choices of marriage or family that most guys my age. I dont want either right now but i plan on wanting it after age 25-26. Very few guys actually have the specifics down for that stuff. And ive also known women who werent partial to talking about marriage. The basis of anything social is that no one is the same. You see it as the way you wrote it. I see it differently. There are no doubt others who see it neither way, but their own. Keep looking and you find someone who is similar but rarely are they exactly like you.

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not sure i believe everything in this article....especially about the marriage thing.....men are after sex, not marriage....and women are always the ones who bring up marriage....and women are also the ones who think eye color is important....no guy would give a shit what color eyes she has....i know this because i'm a guy.....anyway, just wanted to throw my $2 in.

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11/14/2021 11:57 pm

Making friends during your teens and early twenties is relatively easy. At school or college, most people you meet are single, childless, and eager to make new friends, but as you age things change: people are busy with their careers, family and aging parents which leave people with little time. They seem to have made their lifelong friends, and of course many now have partners and children. Everyone needs love and support, especially during moments of crisis and pain, such as divorce or the death of a parent. It is often at such moments that people realize how few deep, loving relationships they have.

So how do you meet new people when you are no longer a college student or a 20-something in the first stages of your career? First, there is what might be called the "acquaintance stage," meaning initial contact. This is relatively easy. Anyone can join a sports club or take up golf in order to meet new people. But choose carefully. As anyone who has struggled through an unhappy marriage knows, spending time with the wrong person can make you feel much, much worse. Consider what you want. If you are by nature a sensitive, introverted sort and reeling from a divorce or the loss of a parent, you are unlikely to meet the kinds of people who suit you at a boxing or football club.


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The next stage is trickier. How do you turn an acquaintance into a friend? Anyone can join an evening class, make more effort with work colleagues, or nod and smile at a neighbor. But moving to a close friendship requires courage, daring, and self-belief. The key is to take the initiative and be prepared for rejection. If you are going to progress to friendship, you must spend time together in a setting in which intimacy can develop. Find out their passions. Perhaps they love art or the theater, or maybe they are a sports fan. If you share an interest in such things, try inviting them to a play or a game. Don't be over-eager, but do be honest. Try saying "oh, I'm a bit of an art lover myself, but I don't know many people who share my interest. Maybe we could go to the new Rembrandt exhibition? It would be nice to go with someone for a change -- art has always been a solitary interest for me."

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Then maybe invite them for a drink afterwards (alcohol or cup of coffee helps people relax). It can also be useful to talk about intimate things. You must be careful here. Don't rush your new friend and make them uncomfortable. When people first meet, they usually spend time figuring each other out. Don't go bursting into tears over a glass of wine and start telling them how lonely you have been since your wife left you. Do try steering the conversation toward deep, meaningful, and personal subjects whenever you can. Rather than asking them about their love-life, their career, or their children, begin by telling them about yours. Admit your vulnerabilities, failures, and fears, but do so in a light-hearted, jokey manner. Remember, you are testing the water. You may find this prompts them to open up about their own life. Once you reach this intimate stage, you must then invest time. As with any kind of relationship, time is the key.

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Finally, consider your own behavior. Ask not what a new friend has to offer you, but what you have to offer a new friend. What do you imagine your new friend is looking for? People are different of course, but most want a friend who will listen attentively. And no one wants a friend who is miserable, negative, and pessimistic. Focus on the positive; if you spend the time talking about cancer, old age, and the climate crisis, don't be surprised if people do not want to see you again. Everyone knows about these horrible things, and they don't wish to be reminded during a dinner party. Instead, make an effort to talk about cheerful, happy things. And take an interest in as wide a range of subjects as possible. Nothing will seal a friendship quite like a mutual passion.

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11/15/2021 12:02 am

Above all, remember that you will get back what you give. If you approach the world with anger and aggression, if you seek to manipulate and use people, you won't get far. Approach the world with a kind, open, and loving heart without expecting or demanding such things in return, and people will naturally gravitate toward you.

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Oh I am full positive energy just running out time...biological clock is rapidly clicking telling me like timer I will so DONE when I reach 40! almost super insane...sigh trying this method...find my other me to complete the crazy circle of life how that hard...hmm its so hard I've been trying all means of dating services and all them failed...help

So yawn sleep doh I am still here..

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Get off his social media.
Even if you plan to stay friends, take yourself off his social media accounts for now. Seeing pictures of him is just going to hurt you, especially if he starts posting about another woman.

When you've given your heart some time to heal, you can always add yourself back.

Recognize what was positive in the relationship.
You're not leaving this relationship with nothing. You still have good memories of happy times you spent together. Remind yourself to be thankful for those times instead of angry and sad.

You also might have learned some lessons about love and life, and that's valuable even if it's hard.

Look great.
You may feel like moping around the house in sweatpants, but it isn't going to get you anywhere. Give yourself a day or two to wallow in it, and then force yourself to stop.

Put on clothes you know look great on you, fix your hair and wear makeup. You are going to feel much better if you are happy with the way you look. A bonus is that if he sees you out and about, he'll remember what he's missing.

Be physically active.
Laying around on the couch eating ice cream may ease your pain for the moment, but it's going to hurt you in the long run. Instead, battle your sadness with something that's good for you. Go for a hike, jump on your bicycle or ask a friend for a game of tennis.

If you're angry, go to the gym and pretend his face is on a punching bag. Do whatever you can to keep moving.

Revisit an old hobby or start a new project.
Is there something in your life you used to love to do? Maybe you enjoyed painting, building furniture or playing the piano. Or is there a project you've been putting off that you could work on? Being productive and finishing a project will take your mind off your loneliness and give you a sense of accomplishment that will make you feel good.

This is the perfect time to remember how much you loved an old hobby. If you don't have anything to go back to, try something new. Take a yoga class, learn to sew or join a softball team. Your goal is to put your positive energy into something that takes your mind off the relationship.

Go out with someone new.
When you feel ready, accept a date or ask someone out for coffee. Don't start looking for another commitment, but remember that you are attractive and desirable. Keep it light, and have fun flirting with new possibilities.

Stop having sex with him.
If you are still sleeping with your ex-boyfriend, stop immediately. It relieves the pain for a little while, but it's only going to break your heart over and over again. Intimacy with an ex creates a huge barrier to healing. Don't do that to yourself.

Being dumped is a horrible experience, but there are smart ways to get through it with as much positivity as possible. Try these 7 strategies to keep you going after a break-up


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11/15/2021 11:54 pm

Is there a Mr Right for you? Does the man of your dreams actually exist? Of course - he's just a bit more difficult to locate, that's all. Finding your perfect man is not always easy and the road can be full of disappointment, but your journey can have a fairytale ending if you follow these few simple rules.

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Determine what you really need:
What is it that you want in a man? What are your needs in a relationship? This is the time to be brutally honest and make a list of what you must have – not what you're willing to settle on. These can be the obvious physical characteristics, but more importantly, this list has to contain the emotional attributes of the person you want to be with. Not easy questions, but the answers will become the treasure map to your perfect man.

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Dress to attract the right man:
Short skirts and abundant cleavage may catch his eye, but don't expect Prince Charming to take you home to meet mom and dad. You've set the profile of the man you want to catch, so dress the way he'd want his lady to look.

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Go where you would expect to find Mr Right:
Go to a bar, get a bar-fly. If your Mr Right is someone responsible and enjoys outdoor activities, you'll not see him sitting in a pub at 2 o'clock on a sunny afternoon. You have to keep asking: "Where would I find my perfect man?" The answer determines where you should be.

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Act according to the standards you've set for him:
What kind of gentleman will you be attracting if you continuously use foul language? Having a social drink is one thing, getting drunk is something else. Unless you've set the standards for Mr Right very low, take a good look at your habits and mannerisms – and fix those bad ones. Crass or sophistication – it's your choice.

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11/15/2021 11:59 pm

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Find a friend and let the relationship follow:
Do not let your search for the right man consume every waking moment of your life. Relax and enjoy meeting people and making new friends. Remember that it's a search for Mr Right, not a hunt for prey

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11/16/2021 12:01 am

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Communicate your needs:
Start communicating early in your dating relationship. Sharing your feelings with a man is okay as long as you do it correctly. Do not reveal your intimate feelings too early and never show your feelings in a negative manner. Being open about what you expect in a man and a relationship is a good thing. If you're afraid that honesty will chase him away then he's probably not the man you were looking for in the first place.

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11/16/2021 12:02 am

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Know the difference between lust and love:
Intimacy draws on strong emotions and these feelings can be mistaken for love. Lust is a short term sensation while love can be forever. If you think you've found the perfect mate, take your time developing that relationship. Sex makes the union special, communication makes it last.

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11/16/2021 12:03 am

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What you see is what you get:
If you think you can mould a man to meet your needs you will be sorely disillusioned. The behaviour you see is what you'll get and believing you'll change him later is self-defeating. You started out to find your perfect man, not one you could fix.

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11/16/2021 12:04 am

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If it's not working, get out:
Never settle for anything less than what you need in a relationship. Once you resign yourself to mediocrity you won't be able to change it. Life is far too short to let the chance of true happiness with Mr Right escape you.

Finding that Knight in shining armour could happen in the next few minutes, or it might take years. Some women may never find him, but that doesn't mean you stop looking for the magic that comes with your perfect man.

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11/16/2021 12:05 am

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Great advice. It is helpful when you are out there in the world of singles after being married quite a few years.

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11/16/2021 12:06 am

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Perfect is not possible, but we must set boundaries, we must know who we are, and what we want in a potential mate.Have fun, laugh,get to be best friends first,live life in harmony

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11/16/2021 12:07 am

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Oh so true - too many women are willing to settle for less than they are worth and vice versa - this is a well written article that both sexes could learn from

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11/16/2021 12:08 am

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Such a very good suggestion. Though I know nobody's perfect, but I will practice it for my self to find my dream lover

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11/16/2021 10:09 pm

The end of a romantic relationship can be very painful because it involves loss. Coming to terms with the loss of your relationship and your partner is difficult. If the breakup occurred because your confidence was betrayed, you may even feel that you've lost your ability to trust again. Some people remain single for the rest of their lives after experiencing a breakup involving betrayal. However, it's possible to trust again provided you're determined enough to do so. Here are some ways to help find out how.

Ponder the Alternative
People often find it difficult to trust again after a painful breakup because they're afraid of the same thing happening again. Betrayal generally feels like a sickening kick to the gut, and it's an experience no sane person wishes to repeat. Nonetheless, the alternative to trusting is even more frightening to contemplate. Romantic relationships need trust in order to develop. Thus without trust, there can be no romantic relationship. Do you really want to live the rest of your life without a loving companion by your side? No individual can enjoy living life as a solitary island because human beings are social by nature.

Time to Heal
If you've just broken up with someone who betrayed you, the last thing you should do is seek a relationship with someone else right away. You need to give yourself time to heal. In order to heal, you'll need to take the time to think about what happened and how it has impacted your life. If you try to sweep it all under the carpet, the issue will become bigger than it really is. If you give what happened due consideration, it should help you to find effective coping strategies. You'll also discover that life goes on, and a cruel betrayal is not the end of the world.

Be Patient
If you've been betrayed by someone, trusting again will not come easily to you. Hence you should expect a few setbacks and disappointments on your road to recovery. These setbacks are normal, so do not beat yourself up about them. The healing process will take time, and so will learning to trust again.

Be Realistic
Sometimes a person can end up feeling betrayed because they put too much responsibility on the shoulders of their romantic partner. If you burden someone else with the responsibility of meeting all of your needs, they're bound to let you down sooner or later. Making someone else responsible for your happiness is unfair and unrealistic. First of all, happiness has to come from within. What's more, other people can meet some of your needs. It is not necessary for your romantic partner to be all things to you.

You Can Trust
After your relationship ends, you may feel that you can't trust others anymore, but that's not strictly true. Most people put their trust in others every day, even if it is just in a small way. Some of the people you trust on a regular basis are actually complete strangers. For instance, when you purchase something in a store, you trust the cashier to give you your change. Similarly you trust your doctor to prescribe the right medications when you have a medical complaint. People have to put their trust in each other every day if they are to get on with the business of living life.



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11/16/2021 10:11 pm

Look Around You
If the experience that left you unable to trust has shaken your faith in humanity, take the time to look around and observe other people. You can often tell by a person's behavior whether or not they can be trusted. People who tend to gossip and stab other people in the back obviously shouldn't be trusted. However, some people keep quiet about other people's affairs, and avoid saying negative things about others. Such people are generally trustworthy and reliable.

Slowly Does It
Once you've healed and dropped any emotional baggage you may have been carrying, you'll be ready to start a new romantic relationship. When you meet someone new, take the relationship very slowly. Gradually allow yourself to trust your new partner little by little. Choose carefully who and what you trust; trust only those who earn it. Observe how your new partner reacts to the things you confide in them. If your new partner keeps small confidences, then you can probably trust them with bigger ones as time goes on. You should also make a point of talking to your partner about your trust concerns. If you do this, they may be able to help you to overcome the problem.


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11/16/2021 10:12 pm

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Unfortunately, there are no guarantees when it comes to romantic relationships. There is always the chance that you will be betrayed in the future. This risk of betrayal is part and parcel of entering into a relationship. Getting involved with someone new is always a leap of faith, but it's a risk that sometimes pays off. Betrayal is and always will be a part of life. It's how you deal with it that matters.

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11/16/2021 10:13 pm

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Thank you for this Article. I am definately agreed. As I had an experience . I don't trust anyone since I broke up wiht 9 years relationship with my ex-husband. I'm afraid to brake up again.
but now I am more stronger than before. My world open wider and I say thank to him to leaved me . I deserve someone better.
Hope all you guys whoever having same problem to sort out and be strong and find true love

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11/16/2021 10:14 pm

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from personnal expierience : do trust but try to not be naive
the people/men on my way seem to have something in common with that person called "ex"
it's quite difficult to forget that part and to stay quite open
and without this openess, the relationship cannot really last

"There will always be people who’ll hurt you. Still trust them but be careful" GGM

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11/16/2021 10:16 pm

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In truth, we dont trust because we make bad coices. Theres noone to blame but ourselves. When a man or woman chooses each other its important for them to research the mental illness within the fanily first. Then they must review their compatibility afterwards. Next, they must be fheir friend's needs answered. And lastly, the can be lovers. Along with looking to the uncertain future with similar sights, they can defeat any foe as long as they work together. But for the most part, keep all others out of your relationships if you want them to grow! For mysery really loves company

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11/16/2021 10:17 pm

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once bitten twice shy FACT

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"Thus without trust, there can be no romantic relationship." This statement kind of sum it all.

If you cannot trust, don't go into any relationship. People might betray a trust, but don't mistrust until one have a reason not to TRUST. Trust is a factor. A partner might fail one, but there is the probability that the person might become trust worthy, after learning his/her mistake. Trust is very important, unless one wants to go insane in a relationship

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11/17/2021 6:42 am

Gossip indicates that a person is nosy, untrustworthy and disloyal. Letting your man know that you are a gossip is not a good way to win his trust and admiration.

Women need to leave past relationships in the past. Talking about old boyfriends or ex-husbands is the quickest way to push a man into the arms of another woman. He doesn't want to hear about how great your ex was. He doesn't even want to hear about how much of a jerk your ex was. Comparing your current man to an old flame is a sure way to ruin your relationship. Your current man is not in competition with your ex and should not be made to feel that way.

If you want your relationship to last, show your man that you can be loyal and trustworthy. Be a good friend as well as a love partner. Don't cling to him like plastic wrap. Trust him enough to let him enjoy a night out with the boys. Let him be his own person and remember that silence is golden. Let his actions speak louder than words.


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11/18/2021 2:43 am

Body language experts have researched how our bodies respond to different emotions. Studies have discovered what it means when she crosses her arms over her chest, or her eyes linger over your shoulder. What is the body language of your loved one saying to you? Learn to interpret the body language of your love interest.

Researchers of non-verbal communication tell us that up to 50% of our communication is done through non-verbal means. (The other half comes through in the tone of our voice as well as the actual words we use.) So, it's important to know what every blink and smile means for your love life


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11/18/2021 2:46 am

Even if your love interest is too shy to stand close, she may be showing her interest in another way. If you're sitting together, notice which way her fingers and hands are placed. It may appear natural, but we tend to place our hands towards the object of our affection.

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11/18/2021 2:48 am

When you enter the room, notice where she stands in relation to you. Much like placing her hands in your direction, the experts in body language say that someone who's interested in you will most likely orient their body towards you. Even if you're there to grab a cup of coffee and see her with friends across the room, she will probably turn to face you, acknowledging your presence, if she's interested in a more personal relationship.

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11/18/2021 2:49 am

Take note of her body orientation but also be aware of her smile. Research shows that people who are attracted to one another smile when they're communicating. Whether in person or over the phone, if she has romance on her mind, she will have a smile on her face. In addition, her smile may linger longer than necessary. It's a sign of interest if her smile continues during pauses in the conversation or long after the conversation has ended.

With her body facing you and a smile on her face, pay attention to her eyes. Does she blink rapidly? Winking or 'batting' of the eyes, as well as an increase in pupil size, are signs that she's attracted to you. Also be aware that intense eye contact shows that she's confident in her feelings and not afraid to let you know


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11/18/2021 8:06 am

Mutually beneficial relationships enhance the quality of one's life. Relationships are give and take. It may sound cliché, but many people enter relationships with the delusion that they will find a perfect mate. If you are seeking perfection, you may want to remain single and by yourself, because that's one way to assure it. Relationships present a perfect opportunity to grow and enrich someone else's life provided that person is sincere and truly deserves it. You need to always go in with your eyes wide open. Don't allow yourself to be blinded by love, then become trapped in a relationship that's not healthy or secure. Patience is crucial. There's no need to fall in love overnight, you're not in high school anymore. The person is not going to turn into a pumpkin at midnight. Take the time to properly nurture and grow your romance. Develop some patience to honestly develop a friendship with your potential partner, truly seek their best interests at heart.


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11/18/2021 8:07 am

To make sure you are not entirely reliant on luck, take a few steps to put out the right positive vibes and to attract your ideal partner. It's good practice to write down goals on paper. Attracting an ideal dating partner is no different. Visualize how your ideal partner looks and acts. Stimulate your mind with positive energy vibes. It's much easier to attract what you desire if you can create a clear picture in your mind. Write down the most desirable traits you seek and why you admire them. Giving meaning to the specific traits you desire triggers your subconscious to understand where you are coming from. To comprehend why you are looking for something gives meaning and significance. Your actions will hopefully reflect it too. Also write down the ideal and most likely places that you may encounter your potential partner, specific venues they may visit. Consider various circumstances where their passions may lead them.

Despite whatever negative experiences you encountered in the past, always try and learn a little about yourself regardless of the pain. It's easy to focus on the negative things that went wrong in past relationships while overlooking the good positive areas. Reflect on what factors turned out well and contemplate how you would react if the same negative scenarios came up again in the future. By continuously analyzing your past, you can avoid repeating the same mistakes over and over like so many tend to do. Don't overburden yourself with past baggage. Things happen for a reason. Learn the lesson and move on with a clean slate. Try not to harbor ill-feelings towards your past ex's. Just realize that some pain and sacrifice are necessary on the journey of finding your life's true love. In everything you do, enjoy yourself, give out positive vibes that attract people to you, make others laugh and feel good. Develop a passion for your career and surround yourself with enthusiastic and positive people. Before long you will attract the right partner. You possess the power to attract someone that can change your life.

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11/18/2021 9:37 pm

Strong words that are, sadly, completely misguided and unrealistic.

As a culture, we've come to accept love as being almost deity-like. We tout it as the cure for all problems, the solution to all your troubles, the only thing you should ever hope to achieve in life. When we take these ridiculous expectations into our relationships, we are often disillusioned. We blame our partners for not being good enough or not loving us enough. We blame the universe for not aligning the stars to send the perfect person into our lives. We blame each other for being shallow and egocentric and selfish. But we forget that love isn't the ultimate solution. Being in love is great, but it's not the only thing you need in life.

Let's look at a few things that we overlook about love and being in love


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11/18/2021 9:40 pm

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Being in love and being compatible with each other are two completely different things.
Read that sentence again. If it confuses you, it probably means that like the rest of us, you've come to believe those two things as interchangeable. Thousands of romance novels and movies have convinced us that against all odds, love will find a way. But reality doesn't support this statement. Being compatible with each other and being in love with each other are two scenarios that require a completely different set of criteria to exist.

We've all seen dozens of abusive relationships where people who are supposed to be in love constantly fight and even physically hurt each other. What is going on here? You could, at any given point in your life, fall in love with someone who has a worldview and a belief system that is completely in opposition to yours. You might want to travel, while they might want to put down roots and start a family. They might think being vegan is the path God wants you to walk, and you might think being vegan is a waste of time.

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11/18/2021 9:42 pm

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If you were to enter into a relationship with someone like this, how likely would it be to succeed even if you were totally in love?

When you are dissecting the relationship six months later after the inevitable disastrous breakup, you might be focusing on what you could've said and done differently. But this is a futile endeavor since the relationship was doomed to fail from the beginning.

When you want to date someone or enter into a committed relationship with them, you need to listen to your mind as well as your heart. You need to see if they are truly right for you and if being around them really makes you happy. If you're constantly at war, no love song can save your relationship.

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11/18/2021 9:44 pm

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Being in love doesn't automatically fix your issues.
Look, if you're someone who has a lot of emotional turmoil in their lives, or you date someone who does, you can't expect love to magically erase the slate. Guess what, if you are a jealous person by nature, you will remain a jealous person in your relationship. Ridding yourself of your emotional baggage is a process that is independent of love and dating. You need to work on your problems on your own. You can't just expect to meet a pretty girl, start dating her, and suddenly turn into Mr. Right overnight.

It's not the most obvious thing to consider, but even a bad relationship can be really addictive. You can get caught up in the roller-coaster of emotions, of constant fighting and making up, of hurling abuses at each other one day and then professing your undying love the next. A lot of people stay in bad relationships because they prefer it over feeling numb. Unless you are a stable person outside your relationship, you can't be a stable person in it.

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G000dbuddy 34M  
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11/18/2021 9:46 pm

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It's not necessary to constantly sacrifice yourself in the name of love.
One of the more popularly touted characteristics of being in love is the willingness to sacrifice yourself. The ability to burn everything in your life at the altar of your relationship is hailed as noble and wonderful. While the fundamental thought of being able to think about another person's happiness above your own is great, it shouldn't be accepted at face value. We need to think outside ourselves, and most definitely, it is a big part of being in love. But let's dig a little deeper.

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G000dbuddy 34M  
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11/18/2021 9:47 pm

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For example, you should always ask what it is you are sacrificing, and how important is it truly that you perform this sacrifice. If you are blindly forgoing your own ambitions, your self-esteem, your boundaries and your mission just because you want to stay with another person, it isn't exactly the most loving thing to do. Being in love doesn't mean accepting bad behavior or being infinitely tolerant. Engaging in this kind of 'sacrifice' all the time builds resentment, and that is the enemy of your relationship.

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G000dbuddy 34M  
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11/18/2021 9:49 pm

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Think about it like this - if the person you are with wasn't your lover, but just a good friend, would you still accept this kind of behavior? More often than not, the answer is no. Considering this, if we want our lovers to also be our best friends, the same rules should apply to them.
You don't need to tolerate abusive behavior from someone just because you are in a relationship with them.

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G000dbuddy 34M  
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11/18/2021 9:51 pm

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Life is much, much larger than love. Before you think about falling in love, think about building a life that you love. Work on your self-esteem. Do things that you are passionate about. Climb a mountain, run a marathon, take a trip to a new city by yourself. Allow yourself to become a complete person before you buy into love as the Holy Grail. It isn't. Be with someone who falls in love with you for who you are and what you are doing with your life. Love is amazing, wonderful and truly beautiful. But life is about more than just love.

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G000dbuddy 34M  
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11/19/2021 9:13 am

Falling in love with someone who adheres to a different religion doesn't mean that either you or your partner has to give up your own spiritual beliefs and religious associations. With the right outlook, you can make an interfaith relationship work no matter how different your views may be from the views of the one you love

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G000dbuddy 34M  
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11/19/2021 9:14 am

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Trust Your Own Judgment
If asked, you could probably rattle off a plethora of reasons why you love your partner and why the two of you are simply perfect for one another. Unfortunately, your friends and family members may not view your relationship the same way. If your loved ones share the same religious background that you do, they are likely to experience some measure of religious bias against your partner. In extreme cases, this could result in your loved ones deliberately attempting to sabotage what you've worked so hard to build.

In situations like these, its crucial to trust your own judgment. Over time, the well-meaning advice of friends, family members and religious leaders can lead you to see fault in your partner where no fault exists--poisoning your relationship. Should the situation cause you intense emotional stress, you may wish to temporarily distance yourself from your loved ones to maintain your psychological health and your relationship

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G000dbuddy 34M  
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11/19/2021 10:53 pm

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Share Each Other's Religious Customs and Practices
Good relationships are built on compromise. Never is that as important as it is with the interfaith couple. You can learn to compromise and appreciate each other's upbringing by attending religious services for both religions, observing each other's religious holidays and learning what you can about your partner's belief system. The most important aspect of this compromise, however, is that you do it together. Observing your religion on your own and leaving your significant other to observe his or her beliefs alone will serve no purpose but to drive a wedge between the two of you. By compromising, you can learn to appreciate the beauty of your loved one's religious beliefs and practices just as he or she will learn to value yours.

If you and your partner share an interfaith relationship, it can be tumultuous and stressful or a fantastic learning experience for both of you. As long as you allow yourself to see the person inside rather than the religion, you can learn to compromise while appreciating the new ideas your loved one brings to the relationship--making your bond to each other even stronger.

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G000dbuddy 34M  
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11/19/2021 10:56 pm

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been through a lot over the years. It's hard for me to trust people. I'm working on that. I like affection, getting it and giving it. l. I need physical and emotional reassurance of your feelings for me. It sounds a little clingy, but I think most men are this way, they just don't/won't admit it. I get attached to people not so easy. Doesn't necessarily have to be a "super sexy". I just have a lot of love in my heart, and once I'm your lover, I'm your true lover. The only way we'll part, is if you leave or give me NO choice but to walk away from you. I like to laugh and make people laugh. I can be a bit moody at times, but what man isn't like that?!!

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G000dbuddy 34M  
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11/20/2021 6:12 am

today's technology, it is easier than ever to find yourself caught up in an emotional affair. You can go online and achieve a connection with someone other than your partner or you can text message throughout the day with a person that you're not having physical intimacy with. Don't kid yourself... you are having an emotional affair.

Before you try to justify whatever you're doing, you need to understand one important fact: your emotional affair, while not physical, is every bit as damaging as a full-blown between-the-sheets affair.


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G000dbuddy 34M  
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11/20/2021 6:15 am

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It needs to stop. The person you're having the emotional affair with needs to be told that it's over... period. You need to make this totally clear to them, and there needs to be no hesitation or any chance that things might change. They need (and you need) to understand that whatever you had is now gone

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G000dbuddy 34M  
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11/20/2021 6:16 am

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Telling your partner. Some would advise you to tell your partner about the emotional affair and to take full ownership of it. This part is going to be hard because you're going to have to let down all your walls and all your barriers and you're going to have to be completely vulnerable. You need to tell your partner what happened, why it happened, and you need to do everything in your power to make sure your partner understands this will never happen again.

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G000dbuddy 34M  
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11/20/2021 6:18 am

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But is this always best? Confessing may help to relieve some of your guilt. But will things between you and your partner ever be the same? How serious will your partner take this? Will your partner ever be able to trust you again? What will happen if you don't tell your partner and they find out later? Are you sure the affair is over and you want to stay in your current relationship? These are things to consider when deciding whether to tell your partner what has been going on. Each couple is different. Only you can decide what is best to do

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G000dbuddy 34M  
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11/20/2021 6:19 am

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Find out what the emotional affair was giving you that you were not getting with your partner -- and fix it. If you went outside the relationship to get those needs fulfilled, you and your partner need to sit down and find ways to get your needs met, as well as your partner's needs met

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G000dbuddy 34M  
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11/20/2021 6:20 am

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Rediscover who your partner is. You need to take a good look at your partner and understand just how important they are in your life. Can you imagine yourself without them? If you can't, you need to make sure that you keep reminding yourself that they are integral to your happiness and you want them more than anything in the world.

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G000dbuddy 34M  
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11/20/2021 6:21 am

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The greatest relationships do not just magically "happen." Whenever you find yourself wanting to turn away from your partner, that's when you're going to need to turn towards them. If something they've said has hurt you, don't keep that inside. Instead, let your partner know your feelings so the two of you can work on resolving the problem. Otherwise, the temptation will be there for you to look elsewhere to get your needs met, and that's how you wound up having problems in the first place. No matter what it takes, always put your partner first and do whatever it takes to keep the lines of communication open at all times

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