A Day of Reflection.....Grateful To Be Alive!
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Posted:Sep 9, 2019 12:09 pm
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When you are faced with a life-threatening condition, you have 2 options: You can give up and surrender or you can fight with every fibre of your being. One year ago, for the second time in just over a decade, I chose the latter.
When laying in Emergency, I came ‘this close’ towards crossing over but knew I wasn’t ready. Later, when I was having tests and scans done, a technician said, ‘You must have a guardian angel looking out for you. Not many people survive what you have. But I know you will be OK’. I knew exactly what he meant and those words will resonate forever.
Every day was and is a journey. There was a battery of tests and consultations until a comprehensive diagnosis was made and treatment plan outlined.
After 6 days, I was sent home, knowing more challenges were ahead and new milestones to reach. I was afraid to go to sleep at night, in case I didn’t wake up. I would say out loud, ‘Please let me wake up tomorrow. I am not ready to leave.’
Now, I am less patient. I don’t ‘sweat the small stuff’. I cringe when I hear or read people whining about what I perceive be trivial stuff. Most of the time, I shake ‘my’ head incredulously, bite ‘my’ tongue and hold back from commenting.
I have battled back. I am a long way from where I was a year ago. Not yet a hundred percent but so much closer. Recently the Doctor remarked once again, I am here today because I am a strong, determined and resilient woman.
I don’t usually share such personal information about myself. I decided to do so to remind everyone, not to take anything for granted. Live and appreciate each day of your life, the best you can, as you don’t know, if there will be a tomorrow.
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The Long Awaited Kiss
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Posted:Aug 7, 2019 6:39 am
Last Updated:Aug 27, 2021 1:29 pm
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If words are missing, blame Dinner Contacts
He moved towards her, closing his hand around her shoulder. Deliberately, he turned her around to face him.
“Whatever, you do, do not say you are sorry,” he said, “I am doing this for 'my' reasons.”
She managed a smile. “I know. You are doing it because you can’t stop yourself. You are a guardian angel by nature.”
“No, I am doing it at least in part, because I have a few questions. But I have must make something very clear.”
“And what would that be? ” she asked a little puzzled.
“Mostly, I am doing this because of you.”
She was not sure how she should respond but it didn’t matter because he kissed her then and she was stunned into speechlessness.
The kiss was not a teenage ’s fantasy come true. It was much more, because she was a woman now and she knew enough about kissing be able judge his kiss. It was not the kiss of her girlish dreams. There was nothing sweet or romantic or gently, seductive about it. This was all about primal, masculine desire and fiercely controlled passion. This was the kind of a kiss a man gave a woman when he sets out make it clear, he wants her.
She knew intuitively there were different possible responses to such a kiss. She could return it with fervent interest or she could break free and walk back towards her car. There was no middle ground. There never would be with him.
For the first time in her life, she realized there was no middle ground for her either. She went all in, wrapping her arms around him and kissing him back with a sensual hunger she had never before experienced. Excitement sent adrenaline racing throughout her body.
He freed her lips and moved his mouth toward her ear, she was hot and cold, breathless and a little shaky. She clutched him, savouring his musky scent and the hard feel of his unyielding body. When she kissed the skin of his throat he exhaled deeply. She wasn’t sure if it was a sign of pleasure or surprise.
He used one finger to raise her chin. His mouth came back down on hers in another intense kiss. She could feel the heat of the fire smouldering just beneath the surface.
He shuddered, took a deep breath and held her slightly away from him. In the moonlight his eyes were darkly brilliant.
Fascinated, she touched the side of this jaw. He turned his mouth into her hand and kissed her palm.
“Don’t tell me, you didn’t see this coming,” he said, his voice rough and edgy. “Because I sure didn’t.”
“I saw it coming,” she admitted. “But, it still caught me by surprise.”
“I didn’t think I could still get surprised like this.”
She smiled. “Years ago, I had a huge crush on you. But you barely knew I existed.”
He pushed her hair back from her face with his fingers. “You were just very young then.”
”Yes, I know, but I’m definitely not anymore.”
“So I noticed.” He brushed his mouth lightly across hers. “ I would give a lot to take you to bed tonight but it’s probably too soon and there’s no bed.” It wasn’t a statement, she realized. It was a question.
“I’m sure the problem of a bed could be easily fixed,” she said. “But you are right, it’s too soon.” She slipped out of his embrace and headed back toward her car.
“Hey! You could have at least argued with me about the timing.”
She laughed and he did too. He caught up with her and kissed the tip of her nose and opened her car door.
She smiled confidently. “How will you know when the time is right?” she asked.
“Don’t worry, I will tell you,”
“Promise me you won’t forget.”
“Trust me, I won’t forget.”
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Realizing She's Not His One Night Stand
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Posted:Aug 5, 2019 1:49 pm
Last Updated:Mar 26, 2021 7:13 pm
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She looked around the dimly lit bar. The music was dying down and most of the tables had cleared . He was right, they both should get going.
Almost reluctantly, she slowly stood up and after a moment, he followed her. She felt his gentle touch as he placed his hand on the small of her back and guided her towards the door.
Outside, the night was cool and the stars twinkled as they lit her path.
She could smell his subtle, expensive cologne. He was strong, intelligent and confident. Previously, she hadn't tried finding someone who challenged her in the ways he did. She’d always just gone with the unquestioning, less challenging ones, those who didn't dare ask too many questions. It seemed safer way.
She looked up at him and his questioning, blue eyes which seemed to see too much. She took an instinctive step back, confused and suddenly spooked. His head had already dropped forward and his lips brushed against her cheek.
“I don’t know what I am doing here. I have policies about these things,” he said as his lips fell to the hollow of her neck. She knew better, but she didn’t want it to stop. The kiss was light and teased her.
He raised his head. “I am not into one night stands. I’m too old for that sort of crap. I have all the things I’m proud of in my life. I don’t believe in one night escapism anymore. I don’t see the point.”
She tried to open her mouth to argue but he cut her off brushing his lips over hers. She was startled and surprised. He stopped and lingered for a moment. He held her lightly, giving her plenty of room; it made her both grateful and disappointed.
She had just started to lean forward when he broke off the kiss.
“I’m interested in you,” he murmured against her ear. “You are not what I expected. You are smart. You are complicated. And I already know you won’t go home with me tonight.”
“You are right. I won’t,” she whispered.
His hands fell from her back as he stepped away. Her arms grew cold as she shivered and watched him walk over to his car. She didn’t call him back. She had her own vehicle so she could drive herself home. It was another of her self-imposed rules, designed to keep herself safe.
She watched as he drove away. And, after another moment, she went home. Alone.
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Missing You....A Mother’s Love Is Irreplaceable 😢
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Posted:Jul 28, 2019 1:00 pm
Last Updated:Jul 26, 2020 8:44 am
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You have never left my thoughts, since the day you passed away.
The beautiful memories of the times we spent together, make me smile.
There are days, I wish I could have you back, for just a little while.
Then we could sit and talk again, just like we used to do.
You always meant so much to me, and forever, will too.
I find myself doing a double-take, when I see your image in the mirror....until I realize, it's me....not you.
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Avoiding Germs: Some Tricks & Myths
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Posted:Apr 2, 2019 7:06 am
Last Updated:Jul 28, 2019 12:26 am
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If you try to avoid germs by using your foot to flush public toilets or your knuckle to press elevator buttons, prepare to be disappointed. In Readers Digest Healthy Living...Here’s what doesn’t work—and what really does—according to hygiene experts.
Using A Paper Toilet Seat Cover
You may feel more comfortable in public restrooms when you can place that thin sheet of paper between the bare toilet seat and your bare behind, but in reality, you might as well sit straight down. Those toilet seat covers, which are often made of tissue paper, are absorbent. Your skin is all the protection you need. Any potentially problematic bacteria you might pick up would have to find a way into your body through an open wound or, more likely, your hands.
The 5-Second Rule
Everyone does it—scoop up a snack, pacifier, or utensil that just the floor and claim that it’s OK thanks to the “five-second rule.” Research shows, however, that this bit of wisdom is a myth. Yes, the longer something stays in contact with a dirty surface, the more bacteria it will pick up. But germs can be picked up in as little as one second, so wash it or toss it—the damage is done.
Using Your Shirt Sleeve To Open A Bathroom Door
Creating a block between a germy door handle and your hands is a good idea, but your own shirt sleeve isn’t idea, says Jessica Pettit with statefoodsafety.. “Using your own clothing, such as a shirt sleeve, to open doors doesn’t actually help you avoid germs, because any bacteria that are on the door handle will just move to your clothing,” she says. “It can hold on to pathogens easily, and the moment your hands brush against the clothing, they will become contaminated.” Your best bet is to use something disposable, like a paper towel, she adds.
Pressing Elevator Buttons With Your Knuckle
Some people, in an effort to avoid bacteria and viruses on public surfaces, will use the back of their hands, forearms, or even elbows to touch surfaces. That’s an admirable effort but not very effective, says Nidhi Ghildayal, PhD, an infectious disease researcher at the University of Minnesota. “The thought process behind this habit is likely that less skin is being exposed to the unwanted germy surface,” she says, “but the back of your hand, just like your front, also has a likelihood of subsequently touching your face or other vulnerable areas. So using the back of your hand may or may not actually be helping you.”
Flushing Public Toilets With Your Feet
“Flush handles do harbour a lot of bacteria,” Ghildayal says, “but it’s partially due to individuals using their feet rather than their hands to flush. The floor and the bottom of your shoes are generally some of the dirtiest parts of a bathroom.” You can skip this precaution because what’s the next thing you’ll do after flushing? That’s right—wash your hands, which is the best way to avoid transferring bugs.
Another reason to skip this habit, says Ghildayal, is that the bacteria you’re trying to avoid are likely already dead. “Gut bacteria don’t thrive for long on the cold, smooth surfaces of public restrooms, such as bathroom fixtures, as this environment is quite different than inside the human body.”
Cleaning With Antibacterial Wipes
Keeping your house clean will help protect you and your family from infectious bugs. However, you may be doing more harm than good if you’re hurriedly wiping down multiple surfaces with one antibacterial wipe. You may end up spreading bacteria around the room if you don’t frequently swap to a fresh wipe; closely the directions and you’ll probably see that the surface should stay wet for four or more minutes after wiping if you want them to clean properly. Plus, some harmful bacteria survive a cursory swipe—they need a more potent solution to knock them .
Wearing Gloves Indoors
Slipping on a pair of gloves to grip potentially grimy handles, doorknobs, or poles may not achieve what you’re hoping. The material is most likely absorbent, and many of the bacteria and viruses you’re coming into contact with may live just as long on fabric gloves as they do on your hand. When you pull them off or put them back on, you’ll still pick up living germs on your bare hands. Even worse: gripping the fingertip of a glove with your mouth to take it off.
Using Hand Sanitizers All The Time
While these gels are handy when you don’t have access to soap and water, too much sanitizing with these products may actually be bad for your health, Ghildayal says. “While many hand sanitizers have been found to be just as effective as hand-washing,” she says, “overuse can cause your natural skin bacteria to be stripped away, and that leaves you more vulnerable to other bacteria.”
Hovering Over The Toilet Seat
Women may think it’s safer to hover over a toilet seat than sit down for fear that bacteria on the seat may stick to your skin when you stand up. They will, but as we’ve already learned, that’s OK. The problem with this habit is that, according to the National Institute of Diabetes and Digestive and Kidney Diseases, hovering can make emptying your bladder more difficult. Do that too often, and you could end up with bladder problems.
Are there other things you do to avoid germs?.
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Let’s Eliminate Redundant Words & Phrases!
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Posted:Mar 23, 2019 10:41 am
Last Updated:Sep 20, 2021 6:11 pm
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English is a complicated language. Yet, we continue to make it more difficult by adding extra words to simple phrases. They become common practice, when in fact, they are just extra and unnecessary. Here are some great examples from Readers Digest where we should stop being so extra! Remember, less is more!
Forever and Ever
Did you ever describe someone as droning on and on (and on!) forever and ever? No need to add “and ever” to descriptions of forever. Daily Writing Tips recommends you avoid using the phrase, because forever is, by definition, endless.
New Innovations
According to Oxford Dictionaries, “new” already exists within the definition of innovation—which is a new method, idea, or product. So if you want to win the prize for redundancy, go ahead and describe something as a “fresh new idea innovation product method.”
Blatantly Obvious
According to Grammarist, redundancies are “word overflows.” Blatant and obvious mean the same thing. There’s no need to descriptively modify one term with the other—unless you want a deluge of word overflow, then by all means, go for it!
Please RSVP
You know you should RSVP for parties, but what do the letters stand for? Respond So Verification Promulgates? Actually, it’s a French phrase, excusez-moi. RSVP refers to “Répondez s’il vous plaît,” which translates to “respond if you please.” Adding the “please” is redundant.
Unexpected Surprise
Surprise! All surprises are naturally unexpected. This phrase is redundant, and you’ll often find it used in cases that weren’t, in fact, surprising. Ever hear anyone claim, “What an unexpected surprise!” after they’ve opened your gift? Or when you show up uninvited at dinnertime?
Advance Warning
It’s not really a warning if it doesn’t occur before whatever it is you’re being warned about. The weather centres don’t give warnings about storms that have already moved on. All proper warnings happen in advance.
Sudden Impulse
Trying to have an impulse that’s not sudden. A true impulse can’t be pre-planned. You just have to let it happen—involuntarily according to the dictionary definition. All impulses will be of the sudden sort. Avoid redundancy when describing them.
End Result
Technically, the result (for whatever) will occur at the end (of whatever). The result is the conclusion, the outcome, the final product, the finish. In other words, the result is the end. Feel free to use “result” or “end,” but never both. End redundant results!
Completely Annihilate
When you annihilate something, you cancel it out and make it void. You basically reduce it to nonexistence. You can’t annihilate something more. There’s no need to add “completely.” Richard Norquist at ThoughtCo lists other redundant words that get linked with “completely” like destroyed, filled, and engulfed.
Do you find yourself using more when less would suffice?
Definition of redundant: not or no longer needed or useful; superfluous.
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Health Awareness For Women Over 50
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Posted:Mar 19, 2019 11:18 am
Last Updated:Feb 18, 2021 11:32 am
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Turning 50 is an important milestone. According to Readers Digest Best Health, here is some interesting information about what you more of and what to cut out when you reach this age:
It’s Heart Disease, Not Breast Cancer Women To Worry About
Heart disease is actually the No. 1 killer for women. Each , heart and stroke kills 31,000 women in Canada, according to the Heart & Stroke Foundation. Women’s heart health risks increase after menopause, yet just one in five women believe heart disease is the greatest threat to their health.
Heart Attacks Are Different
For women, the most common heart attack symptom is chest pain or discomfort, but they are more likely to experience shortness of breath, nausea, vomiting, and back or jaw pain.
You Are Not The Only One
Millions of women can’t control “gotta go” feeling (urge incontinence) or leak during exercise or when they sneeze or cough (stress incontinence), and this risk increases after menopause. It’s common but not normal, and any leaking of urine should be evaluated and treated.
Your Sleeping Position Matters
Stomach and side sleeping positions can cause wrinkles over time, and this effect gets worse as you age thanks to the natural thinning of your skin, according to a study in Aesthetic Surgery Journal. Most sleep wrinkles can be seen on the forehead, lips, and cheeks. If you can tolerate it, sleeping on your back can help slow the wrinkles.
You Really Are What You Eat
Planning a healthy diet ’s rich in good fats, dark leafy greens, berries, and fish. Diets limit carbs can also boost brain health. Your brain needs healthy fats, and fewer sugars and carbs.
Stick To A Bedtime
Most of us haven’t had a real bedtime since childhood. However, getting adequate sleep is highly underappreciated as a health issue in women after 50, and setting and sticking to a regular bedtime can help make sure you are getting enough—just like it did when you were a . The Office on Women’s Health in the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services recommends women aged 50 and older get least seven to eight hours of sleep per night.
Vaccinations Aren’t Just For
Women over 50 should get a flu shot yearly and talk to their doctor about other vaccines, such as those for pneumonia and the zoster (shingles). Your doctor can tell you which vaccines you after 50.
You Can Still Get Pregnant
If you haven’t officially entered menopause, you can still become pregnant, and you may to use birth control. Menopause is diagnosed when a woman hasn’t had her period for 12 straight months for no other obvious reasons, and most women enter menopause age 51.
Losing Weight Is Tougher After 50
It’s time to start watching what you eat a little more closely—and maybe an exercise day to your week. (Mindful eating can also help.) As women menopause, their metabolism can slow, making it an uphill battle to lose weight.
Falling Is A Real Risk
It’s not just the elderly who are in danger of falls and fractures: New research finds falls become more common after the age of 40—particularly in women. Falling is more dangerous than you think—it’s one of the leading causes of hospitalization and mortality in the elderly, according to the Centre for Disease Control.
What are some of the additional health risks aren’t listed?
Did you make any lifestyle changes when you turned 50?.
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Was It Enough?
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Posted:Mar 19, 2019 12:04 am
Last Updated:Sep 3, 2021 1:26 pm
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She felt a tear trickling down her cheek and didn’t know whether it was there because of the stress of her current predicament or the memory of what her life had once been.
He stepped toward her and ran his fingers through her hair. He then placed a palm against the nape of her neck. It felt so familiar. They’d done this hundreds of times before. This part had never been their problem. He knew exactly where to place his hands on her body. He knew the exact moment when it was right to lead her to the bedroom.....
For the first time in a miserable week, she felt a smile on her face when she woke up. He was trying to pull his clothes on in the dark.
“Love them and leave them, huh?” she whispered.
“I was trying not to wake you,” he smiled at her.
She felt so warm beneath the comforter and pushed the covers down to her waistline. She looked up at him, squinting into the darkness.
“This is so unfair,” he said frustrated.
“What? I’m just lying here,” she said innocently.
Apparently, that was all it took to persuade him to fall back into bed with her. However, a few seconds later, he suddenly sat up to face her.
“I feel like I need to apologize to you for this,” he admitted.
“What are you talking about?” She tugged at his arm, trying to get him to look at her.
“I feel like I took advantage of you when you are probably in a fragile place.”
“Fragile? Did you really just call me fragile?” she asked.
“No. Not exactly. But, I did wake up wondering, if last night, after everything that has been happening to you lately, was the best time, for you know, us?”
“I am a grown-up. I make my own decisions. And, in case you couldn’t tell, I was definitely a willing participant,” she assured him.
“I guess, I am just surprised that you are willing to fall into the same pattern that has always seemed to make you so unhappy. I don’t want us to do that. It’s also why, I unsuccessfully, tried to find another woman I could care about, half as much, as I do you.”
She pulled the covers back up to her shoulders. “This is not exactly the best time to talk to me about other women,” she admonished him.
“My point is that nothing ever works with anyone else. You and I always fall right back into the same pattern and I am not sure that we should.”
“You really think it’s the same this time?” she inquired.
“Isn’t it always? We have been doing this for years. And it never seems to be enough, so we call it quits. Then we try to see each other just as friends but we can never stay as just friends. Then we fall back to being ‘us’.
“It’s always been enough for me. We have always been good friends. And there’s always been love between us, no matter what phase of our life we are in. That’s enough for me. You are the one who wants something I can’t give you. A mother to your . A family you can take care for life. I have never wanted to stand in the way of you getting that,” she assured him.
“Maybe you were so convinced that’s what I wanted, that you chose to push me away,” he commented.
She saw his eyes move to the clock on the nightstand. “I hate that I have to leave now, but I really can’t be late for the meeting.”
“We can talk later when you are finished. But, only if you think we need to talk. Honestly, I woke up feeling happy. You didn’t take advantage of me. And I don’t think there’s a problem here?”
“I will call you when I am free. I want to see you tonight, ok?”
“Of course. I always have time for you!”
“And, just so you know. Right now? Looking at you. I don’t know why I ever thought there was someone else out there for me to find.”. He turned on his heels and dashed out the door. Leaving her wondering, "Was it enough?"
Are you ever left wondering if it's enough for you?
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Stroke Can Happen At Any Age
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Posted:Mar 10, 2019 6:08 am
Last Updated:Aug 28, 2021 10:41 am
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No - not the kind you might be thinking of given this is a sex site.
The recent shocking death of 52-year-old Luke Perry, who starred in "Beverly Hills 90210" and "Riverdale," has many people talking about stroke risk factors and warning signs. Did you know, there are risk of stroke at any age?
From the Heart and Stroke Foundation of Canada, here's what you need to know:
What is a stroke?
A stroke is a sudden loss of brain function caused by a sudden brain blood vessel blockage (ischemic stroke) or rupture (hemorrhagic stroke). Ischemic stroke is the most common type of stroke. Stroke can happen at any age, so know the signs and know what it looks like.
Who is affected?
In Canada, about 741,800 adults aged 20+ live with the effects of a stroke (2012/13), 365,000 men and 376,800 women. One-quarter of Canadians living with stroke are under age 65 . Stroke prevalence rises sharply after age 55
What are the risks?
High blood pressure is the strongest risk factor for a stroke. Other risk factors include smoking, obesity, diabetes, high blood cholesterol, and atrial fibrillation (Afib)
How to prevent a stroke
>Keep blood pressure under control
>Maintain a healthy diet
>Be physically active
>Quit smoking
Every minute counts in a stroke emergency!
Survival and full recovery are possible if one acts… FAST
Learn the signs of a stroke
FACE - is it drooping?
ARMS - can you raise both?
SPEECH - is it slurred or jumbled?
TIME - to call 9-1-1 right away.
Act FAST because the quicker you act, the more of the person you save.
Has a friend or relative had a stroke?
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Sex: Dispelling Some Myths
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Posted:Mar 2, 2019 9:29 am
Last Updated:Sep 21, 2021 7:42 pm
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Thanks to porn, sex hook-up sites and 'urban myths', sexual misinformation can abound. Here's some factual information that may surprise you.
Women Get Erections Too
Women actually get erections in their genitals and even though they’re smaller than the male counterpart, they are just as important, says Sadie Allison, DHS, a sexologist, founder of Tickle Kitty and author of Tickle His Pickle–Your Hands-On Guide to Penis Pleasing. “The clitoris is made up of the same spongy erectile tissue as the penis, which expands and engorges with blood when aroused,” she explains. “You can observe this—just look at your clitoris or touch it when you’re aroused and it will be bigger.”
A Headache Doesn't Lessen Everyone's Mood
Contrary to the popular cliché, “Not tonight, I have a headache,” one study found that not all headache sufferers avoid sexual activity. In fact, migraine sufferers reported higher levels of sexual desire according to the research done by the Wake Forest University School of Medicine and colleagues. Why? “Our study suggests that sexual desire and migraine headaches may be influenced by the same brain chemical,” said Timothy Houle, Ph.D., lead author and research assistant professor of anesthesiology.
The Clitoris Is Way Bigger Than You Think It Is
In addition to the part of the clitoris you can see, there’s a much larger part—called the clitoral urethral vaginal complex—underneath the skin that also engorges with arousal, says Stella Harris, certified intimacy educator and sex coach and author of Tongue Tied: Untangling Communication in Sex, Kink, and Relationships. When a woman is aroused, the vaginal canal also lengthens as the uterus is pulled further upward into the body, the angle often changing as well. “Not only is this fascinating, but it’s one of the reasons that waiting for full arousal means having more pleasurable sex; sex is best when your body is ready,” she says.
The G spot Exists. Except It Doesn’t.
“G spot is a misnomer, as what we consider the ‘spot’ isn’t a discrete anatomical entity. Instead, it’s an area of the urethral sponge that is highly sensitive for many people. But bodies and arousal are complex, and there’s no sure-fire technique, or even erogenous zone, that works for everyone. So basically you may have a spot you identify as the G spot—but it isn’t a spot and it won’t work the same for every woman
A Big Penis Won’t “stretch out” A Vagina
A weirdly popular myth is that having too much sex or having sex with a large partner or toy can stretch out a woman’s vagina and/or labia. The vaginal canal is a muscle and does not permanently stretch from having accommodated a large penis or toy. The vagina is incredibly resilient and bounces back quickly. Also, the shape and size of the labia are unique to each woman and are not indicative of her sexual status or history
Penis Girth Is More Important Than Length
Many men like to compare the length of their penises but the only people who really care about that number are… other men. The vagina mainly is covered in stretch mechanoreceptors, which means that girth (or width) is a more important aspect of the penis for women, on average,” explains Nicole Prause, PhD, a sexual physiology researcher at the University of California, Los Angeles, and licensed psychologist.
More Thrusting Does Not Equal More Fun
Forget what you see in porn, “pounding”, or fast, hard thrusting, doesn’t turn most women on and it can actually cause pain and injury. The most common place women experience pain during sex is in the vulvar vestibule, just under the opening to the vagina, where a thin skin stretches underneath the opening that is very vulnerable to abrasion and tearing. This is why generally women do not benefit from (or want) prolonged ‘pounding,’ which just drags the penis repeatedly across this area, creating painful friction fairly quickly.
A Cucumber Is Not A Sex Toy
Silicone, steel, Pyrex, glass, or specially laminated wood are the only materials that are actually safe for use inside your body. Toys made with vinyl, latex or a combination of these with other plastics (for example, a silicone-jelly mix) are not considered to be safe for skin contact and should only be used with a condom.
Yes, You Can Break A Penis
Getting a penile fracture is a real thing that can and does happen. It’s relatively rare but it’s worth talking about as there are things you can do to protect against this injury. The highest risk of fractures to the penis occurs when the couple changes position while the erect penis is still inside the vagina. If you are interested in changing position, fully withdraw the penis from the vagina first. Extremely aggressive pumping can also sometimes lead to a penis fracture.
*Update: Everyone knows a penis doesn’t have any bones. According to the Mayo Clinic: a penis fracture can occur when there is trauma to an erect penis. During an erection, the penis is engorged with blood. If an engorged penis is bent suddenly or forcefully, the trauma can rupture the lining of one of the two cylinders in the penis (corpus cavernosum) responsible for erections — resulting in a penis fracture. The trauma most often occurs after accidental injury during intercourse, but can also occur due to aggressive masturbation or taqaandan, a cultural practice in which the top of an erect penis is forcefully bent.
Sex Can Be Enjoyed Without Having An Orgasm
“The idea that sex must lead to orgasm can be a very damaging thought for people of all genders and sexualities as it puts undue pressure on them and can cause anxiety—the two enemies of sexual pleasure,” says Melissa Coats, a licensed professional counsellor specializing in sex therapy. “Sex is meant to be pleasurable but there are many ways to find pleasure in sexual contact without orgasm.” Taking the pressure off yourself to always climax can lead to a more relaxed and positive experience.
Any 'facts' you would like to share or myths you would like to dispel? ? Did you learn something new?
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So You Think You Can Spell?
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Posted:Feb 28, 2019 12:33 am
Last Updated:Aug 11, 2021 3:14 am
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I have always prided myself on being a good speller. This skill was developed at a young age through my love of reading and crossword puzzles. It's always interesting to come across words in the English language that seem like they should be spelled differently because the correct way just doesn't look right.
According to Reader's Digest, here are some of the hardest words to spell. See if you have been spelling them correctly.
With only six letters, “dilate” really shouldn’t be hard to spell, but the way people usually pronounce it can throw spellers for a loop. Many people say “dilate” as three full syllables, “di-a-late,” leading themselves and others to add in an extra “a” while spelling it. But let’s put this easy misunderstanding to rest—there’s no such word as “dialate”
With “indict” popping up as a buzzword in today’s political climate, for better or worse, many people find themselves doing a double take when they see it written out. Though the word is pronounced “indite,” it has a “c” in it! The legal term, whose first use dates back to around 1620, is a Latin variation on an earlier word that was spelled “indite.” To make things even more confusing, “indite” is actually still a word; it means to write or compose.
Nope, it’s not “mini-scule,” no matter how much logic would suggest. It bears no linguistic relation to “mini” or “miniature” but actually comes from the Latin minus, meaning “less.”
Words with double letters are already going to be confusing; knowing which letters you double in words like “necessary,” “embarrassing,” and “millennium” is no small feat. “Accommodate” in particular can be tricky to remember since it follows a different rule from “recommend,” another word where the c’s and m’s can be sources of confusion. While “recommend” only has one “c,” “accommodate” has two of both consonants. Not to mention, “accommodate”‘s second “o” doesn’t really make an “o” sound; you could certainly see an “a” or an “e” going in that spot, no problem.
“Conscious” and “conscience” are tricky enough to spell. Take the first eight letters of “conscience,” pronounce them differently, and add another “sh” sound created by different letters, and you’ve got a doozy of a word for “moral and principled.”
This is simply a word where if you know it, you know it. Looking quickly at this word, which means “comply or agree without question,” you might not think that that first “c” needs to be there; it isn’t in words like “aquatic” or “aquiver.” You may also be tempted to throw a double “s” on the end in lieu of the “sc,” or just write the “s” with no “c.”
These poor Bornean primates are the subject of much linguistic confusion. According to Merriam-Webster, their name is the amalgamation of two words in the Malay pidgin language: “orang” for “man” and “hutan” for “forest.” But many people prefer pronouncing an anglicized version that adds another “g” to the end, making the word perplexing for spellers. As if that weren’t confusing enough, some variations on the spelling hyphenate the word and/or add an “o” before the “u,” creating “orang-outan.”
There’s a reason many meat packages spell it “baloney.” The word “bologna” derives from Bologna, Italy, since a similar (but fancier) type of sausage comes from that city. If you want to mimic this fanciness, that “-gn” at the end should be pronounced with a “yuh” sound. But the Americanized, more phonetic spelling seems to better suit thin slabs of Oscar Mayer.
Did you find any surprises? Do you like to do crossword puzzles?
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Sexual Fantasies of Men and Women
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Posted:Feb 24, 2019 11:10 am
Last Updated:Mar 20, 2022 5:23 pm
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Sexual fantasies are 'normal' to have. Most adults have them and yes there are differences in what women and men fantasize about.
Brett Kahr, a British psychotherapist and author of Who’s Been Sleeping In Your Head? analyzed the sexual fantasies of more than 20,000 British and American adults. His study revealed that many people fantasize as a way to lift their spirits, and a means of exploring sexual activities they can't achieve in real life.
One stat that really stood out is that about 90 percent of adults fantasize about someone other than the person they’re having sex with and for a substantial amount of time.
Here are some other interesting findings:
>41 percent imagine sex with someone else’s partner (75 percent of people think this one trait makes you more attractive)
>39 percent think about sex with a work colleague
>25 percent (particularly men and younger people) fantasize about celebrities
>18 percent of women fantasize about sex with two or more men
A team of scientists at the University of Montreal explored some of the differences between the sexual fantasies men have compared to women. The scientists polled 1,517 adults about their sexual fantasies and published the findings in the Journal of Sexual Medicine,
>Women were found to fantasize more about having sex in a specific location or with a stranger
>Men fantasized more about anal sex and receiving oral sex.
>Both men and women were about equal when it came to fantasizing about participating in group sex.
The conclusion of the experts? Having a strong sexual fantasy life can actually enhance your romantic relationship rather than weaken it.
Do you agree with the experts? Should fantasies be discussed with your partner?
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Choosing A Fling or a Relationship?
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Posted:Feb 20, 2019 8:55 pm
Last Updated:Mar 1, 2021 1:07 pm
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He picked up her wine glass and filled it partway.
She accepted the glass from him, took a sip and then set it down. “We need to talk.”
“Really? About what?” he asked.
“About this,” she replied. She felt impatient with her own inability to express herself, even her own discomfort.
“What about it?” he cocked his head, his tone gentle, not challenging.
“I thought we were friends, colleagues. Are we starting something here? Are we trying to have some kind of relationship?” she implored. She could barely catch her breath yet had to continue, “You already said you don’t like to compromise. Well I don’t either. We aren’t anymore. Life is complicated. We can’t pretend that everything is easy.”
“I hear you,” he commented as he sipped his wine. “We are adults. We have jobs and responsibilities.”
She threw her hands up in frustration. “What are we doing here, really? What are you looking for? Seems the only thing that makes sense is a fling. Is that what you want…a fling?”
“No,” he answered quietly while setting down his wine glass. ”I don’t want a fling.”
“Then what? Just exactly what do you want?” she asked impatiently.
“Something real. Something serious. Something that lasts,” he responded very deliberately.
She sat still, barely able to breathe. It was just the answer she wanted and yet the one she feared the most. “I want the same thing,” she forced herself to say aloud although it wasn’t easy to be so vulnerable. “I am not looking for a fling or a one-night stand either. Those just aren’t worth the time or trouble.”
“I agree, they aren’t," he nodded.
“But what about the issue of compromising? Neither of us wants that.”
“I don’t have all the answers right now. I’m trying to figure this out. I didn’t know I wanted anything like this. At least, not until I met you.” His dark eyes looked deep into hers. “If you really want to know what I want, it’s a chance with you.”
“But you don’t even know me,” she stammered.
“What I know so far, I really like. I like how honest you are. I like how smart you are. I like that you are sexy. I like your passion about things other than yourself.”
He leaned over, staring at her through the candlelight, taking her soft hand in his. “I don’t expect this to be easy. You are not easy. But I think there is something unmistakable between us,”
She blinked in disbelief.
“Why not take a chance, on us?”
She knew then, that this was exactly what she wanted.
What are their chances of making it work?
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